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Noah's Partying Ways
Jul 11, 2008 01:00AM
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Well, here I am sitting in the dark w/my 2 month old baby & it's 11:50 p.m. He got up to eat & now he wants to P-A-R-T-A-Y!!! OMG, what the heck, Noah? This child was up nearly 12 hours w/hardly a nap and now he's up AGAIN and doesn't want to sleep?? I was thinking today, "Well at least Noah does pretty well at night. He's in a routine of one to two feedings & is drinking 6 oz. per feeding. Oh, was I wrong to think this - I jinxed myself!! How typical. Why oh why do I do this? I should just stop thinking kind of ultimatums or assumptions.
Wade (dh) has a horrible time hearing him cry. He never gets that first feeding which is fine most of the time but what ***** is when he misses the 2nd one. Last night I told him that he HAD to sleep on the couch w/the baby monitor up full blast so he'd hear the baby & I wouldn't. Of course that didn't work. It should have - but I didn't count on him and was up every few hours to make sure he heard the baby. When I complained that I was having a hard time waking him up, he bought me a spray bottle & told me to spray him in the face. For a long time I was afraid to as I was worried he would take a swing at me when I got him. Well, I finally got so sick of shaking and yelling at him that I decided to give it a try. The first time I accidentally had the thing set at 'jet stream' & it got him right in the eye! I didn't feel too sorry for him (maybe slightly). The next time I sprayed him, it worked but tonight when I needed him, I sprayed him TWICE & neither time worked. WTF??? I'm so frustrated w/him or at least this part. I'm sick to death of him telling me before we go to bed, "Hey hon if the baby wakes up and you're too tired to deal w/him, wake me up and I'll take care of him." FAT CHANCE!!
Sometimes I feel like I'm raising this baby by myself. I know it's not true but this week has been especially bad. I've had to do my own work at home w/the baby w/out any help. Most of the time I can do it but this week has been terrible. Noah hasn't taken any decent naps so I could get things done or even catch a nap & Wade's work schedule at the pharmacy have been ridiculous. He's been out of the house by 7:20 in the morning and not home (not counting lunch) until after 8:30 p.m. I've been used to this kind of thing before (especially w/X) but I don't want to go throug it again!! Is that so wrong? Next week will be better. We really need to get some kind of childcare a couple times a week so I can get my own work done in a timely manner
Wade (dh) has a horrible time hearing him cry. He never gets that first feeding which is fine most of the time but what ***** is when he misses the 2nd one. Last night I told him that he HAD to sleep on the couch w/the baby monitor up full blast so he'd hear the baby & I wouldn't. Of course that didn't work. It should have - but I didn't count on him and was up every few hours to make sure he heard the baby. When I complained that I was having a hard time waking him up, he bought me a spray bottle & told me to spray him in the face. For a long time I was afraid to as I was worried he would take a swing at me when I got him. Well, I finally got so sick of shaking and yelling at him that I decided to give it a try. The first time I accidentally had the thing set at 'jet stream' & it got him right in the eye! I didn't feel too sorry for him (maybe slightly). The next time I sprayed him, it worked but tonight when I needed him, I sprayed him TWICE & neither time worked. WTF??? I'm so frustrated w/him or at least this part. I'm sick to death of him telling me before we go to bed, "Hey hon if the baby wakes up and you're too tired to deal w/him, wake me up and I'll take care of him." FAT CHANCE!!
Sometimes I feel like I'm raising this baby by myself. I know it's not true but this week has been especially bad. I've had to do my own work at home w/the baby w/out any help. Most of the time I can do it but this week has been terrible. Noah hasn't taken any decent naps so I could get things done or even catch a nap & Wade's work schedule at the pharmacy have been ridiculous. He's been out of the house by 7:20 in the morning and not home (not counting lunch) until after 8:30 p.m. I've been used to this kind of thing before (especially w/X) but I don't want to go throug it again!! Is that so wrong? Next week will be better. We really need to get some kind of childcare a couple times a week so I can get my own work done in a timely manner
I hear you hon!! Things could be worse though...my dh has not done a single overnight feed the entire 6 months our daughter has been here (she won't take a bottle so I am out of luck in that area!) I don't even know what it is like to sleep through the night anymore!! My dh is a pharmacist too :) and I too sometimes feel like I am raising her alone. Tonight in fact he worked 2:30pm-12:30am and then the overnight shift called in sick so he is working that shift too! Tomorrow he will sleep all day from working all night and go back to work at 2:30pm-12:30am. Ughh!! I too need to find a babysitter who can just run over on call so I can go to the grocery store or just take a nice shower for gosh sakes!! I love him and and so thankful for his good job but it does get tiring doing everything yourself. Hang in there though - things will get better. :)
The deal is that with X, he NEVER did a nighttime feeding w/our children & there were 4 of them but I was younger too. I made a deal w/dh that sure I'd get up w/the baby whenever BUT he had to do the nighttime feedings w/me. I think what else is getting me is that I wanted this baby so bad, went through so much to get pregnant and give birth that I feel horribly guilty complaining about my dh. I almost think it'd be better on our marriage if we both agreed that for the most part I'd do the nighttime feedings - then I wouldn't be so resentful. It sounds good in theory anyway. Thanks so much for your comment - I found out why Noah was so fussy - he has thrush AGAIN! Now that he's started the Nystantin & Tyelonol, he's sleeping much, much better. I feel terrible (again!) that I didn't pick up on the fact that my child wasn't feeling good. Bad Mommy!
Oh you are not a bad mommy at all!! It is so hard to know when babies are just being fussy or if something is really wrong! Izzy was crying and crying last night (no tears, just whines). I would nurse her to sleep and put her to bed ever so gently and as soon as her head hit the mattress she was so upset and crying and crying. I repeated this at least five times and then wouldn't you know it, I go upstairs to watch her on the monitor (because I am exhausted by now) and she throws up all over the place! Poor little thing must have had a bad tummy ache but of course I just thought she was being a drama queen about going to bed!! I felt so bad for her but how was I to know! Poor little Noah with thrush...I know my little sisters daughter had that and it was so hard to get rid of (she was nursing and also had it).
I know the nightime feedings are hard but I just try to enjoy them and snuggle with her, all by our lonesome!! I also give her a tubby, get her jammies on and put her to bed every night and every time dh gets involved in the process things start to go awry! (It is "Izzy and mommy time" and we don't care what daddy is doing then (but hopefully whatever it is it isn't too loud!)) Try not to get resentful towards your dh, that will only make things harder. When I feel like that I just try to focus on how happy I am to have Izzy in my life and then I forget about the little stuff. The time they are babies just flies by so fast, I am sure a year from now when she is bigger I will be wishing I had held her even more while she was just a baby than I already do now (and wondering why I even cared at all if my dh changed a diaper or not, I should've just done it even for the few extra seconds it gives me with her)!! My older sister who has 3 kids (ages 6-11) just tells me how lucky I am to have a baby (they are done having kids but she loves babies!) and that I should just hold her as much as possible so that is what I try to do....I don't want to regret anything in the future!!
I know the nightime feedings are hard but I just try to enjoy them and snuggle with her, all by our lonesome!! I also give her a tubby, get her jammies on and put her to bed every night and every time dh gets involved in the process things start to go awry! (It is "Izzy and mommy time" and we don't care what daddy is doing then (but hopefully whatever it is it isn't too loud!)) Try not to get resentful towards your dh, that will only make things harder. When I feel like that I just try to focus on how happy I am to have Izzy in my life and then I forget about the little stuff. The time they are babies just flies by so fast, I am sure a year from now when she is bigger I will be wishing I had held her even more while she was just a baby than I already do now (and wondering why I even cared at all if my dh changed a diaper or not, I should've just done it even for the few extra seconds it gives me with her)!! My older sister who has 3 kids (ages 6-11) just tells me how lucky I am to have a baby (they are done having kids but she loves babies!) and that I should just hold her as much as possible so that is what I try to do....I don't want to regret anything in the future!!
Poor little girl!! you have a great attitude about those nighttime feedings and everything else I might add. The other night No was up from 2:30 - 5:00 a.m. I was so tired but a little delirious so to keep myself awake and entertain him, we 'made' chocolate chip cookies. At least they were yummy.
I hope I don't resent dh too much. Hopefully our new system will work. I take the first feeding as long as it's before 3:00 a.m. & then he moves to the couch and takes the next one. The monitor drives me crazy - I'm such a light sleeper that I hear everything and I mean EVERYTHING which is why he's on the couch. Noah's not on any schedule yet - he's fed on demand as I assume most babies are at his age. I look forward to the time he's a little more predictable.
I too want to savor every moment of his sweet life. We went through so much to get pregnant & it's been wonderful. I wish I would write more about that as opposed to the stuff I'm cranky about - does that make sense? You're right - they grow up sooo fast and I can attest to that.
I hope I don't resent dh too much. Hopefully our new system will work. I take the first feeding as long as it's before 3:00 a.m. & then he moves to the couch and takes the next one. The monitor drives me crazy - I'm such a light sleeper that I hear everything and I mean EVERYTHING which is why he's on the couch. Noah's not on any schedule yet - he's fed on demand as I assume most babies are at his age. I look forward to the time he's a little more predictable.
I too want to savor every moment of his sweet life. We went through so much to get pregnant & it's been wonderful. I wish I would write more about that as opposed to the stuff I'm cranky about - does that make sense? You're right - they grow up sooo fast and I can attest to that.
I just re-read my original entry - it was mean! I feel so bad now griping about taking care of Noah when he's been a delight. I guess I was venting that night but now I feel terrible. But I think I'm about to have my period and that always makes me overly emotional & nutty so I guess I need to put things in perspective. I bought these cool bilingual toys for the baby - they're so much to play with!! Noah's going to have so much fun playing w/them & hopefully learning a little Spanish. I have to learn some of the words as well - I 'm a little rusty. I'm thankful for all of my friends on MedHelp who've gotten and supported me through all of my two week wait, pregnancy & baby care.
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