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totally deppressing!
Jul 18, 2008 01:49AM
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I am a mother of a 2yrs and 6 mos.old child. He's our first son and the very first grand child of my parents in laws. We were really bothered about his very late in speech development and he seems so awkward to play with other kids. He likes to be with old people but not with other kids. He never likes to play with kids toys but adult things. He can say ama,baba but it seems that he never knew exactly whos who and what's what. His Doctor suggested him to have MRI and Brain scan and so we did just recently. And results shows no sign to be alarmed of. They just said they cannot really tell at all what his symptoms are until he reach age 3. He really likes to play musical toys and could do some sound mimicking too. He can also express likes and dislikes but cant really say what he really wants in words. Doctors said he's very much too late compare to some other kids his age. And this has been a major deppressions for us all. I've been askin his doctors about his symptoms but all they said was they cant tell for now...Is my son an autistic child? I really wanna know soon and is there an effective way to teach him how to speak? I took him to an Occupational Therapist and Speech Therapist once a month and I also enroll him at a training School here in Japan( I forgot to say we live in Japan).
I am hoping to get some answers to my quesions. Looking forward to your favorable response soon.
Cordially yours,
Angelluvs
I am hoping to get some answers to my quesions. Looking forward to your favorable response soon.
Cordially yours,
Angelluvs
Definitely have him tested for autism right now. If that is what this is, the sooner you can get him into special programs and treatments, the better his life will be, as will yours.
Our son went to countless therapists and went through occupational and vision therapy and we were always told he was learning disabled. Nothing worked. Finally, we were referred to a child psychiatrist who spent five minutes with our son after reading our information sheet, came to us in the waiting room and said, "This kid is autistic!" I slapped my head and said, "Of course he is. Why didn't I see it? I have an MS in Psychology but back when I was in school, autism wasn't in the English language. So our son was 13 years old before being diagnosed and after that, his school was able to develop a special program tailored just for him. He is now 32 and is very high functioning, thank goodness. He lives at home but has a good life. If he had been properly diagnosed earlier, he would not have had such a difficult time. He is brilliant and funny and talented.
Two quick stories to let you know what autistic kids are capable of. He talks when he feels like it and I have always told him I love him just as he is and if he feels like talking, I will listen but if he doesn't, he and I communicate very well without words and I love him just the same. His father, however is always pushing him to talk more and our son resents that. One day, his father came in holding a book...Steven King's latest novel. He set it in front of our son and said, "Open the book to any page and read to me." Our son looked at him, thought about it for a moment, opened the front cover, read, "$24.95 and shut the book. Our other son and I fell on the floor while his father said, "That's not funny. I paid $24.95 for that book!" I replied, "We know. He just told us!"
When he was ready for 8th grade, we were encouraged to mainstream him into a regular school as the special school he sttended could go no further. We chose the best school district in the area and bought a house there. His science teacher called me one day and said they were going to be participating in the Academic Pentathalon and she wanted our son on the team. They had rehearsals everyday for a month after school. Twenty other districts would participate and the team with the highest point level would win the area trophy. The night before the meet, our son told me that he needed to read The Scarlet Pimpernell for the meet the next day. It was 7:00 p.m. Luckily, Half Price Books was nearby and still open and they had a copy. We did a speed read and I wrote questions for him to answer and he seemed to know the correct answers. Problem solved.
Parents were invited to attend after the regular meet was finished for what was called The Great Big Super Quiz. I drove the 40 miles, eager to see how his team fared. I took a seat in the stands of the gym and found my son's team at their table. I waved to my son and was rewarded with a super smile. Then the head judge announced that the Great Big Super Quiz that year would be the music of the 50's and 60's. The world's leading expert on the music of the 50's and 60's happened to be my son, as autistic kids have phenomenal memory skills. I had to laugh. People around me probably thought I was nuts but it was so ironic! Well, the judge would play two seconds of a song and a team member that wanted to answer had to hold up his paddle. Each time, one paddle went up before anyone else's. Guess who's? He not only knew the name of the song, but the name of the artist(s), the label and the year it was popular. One school scored a perfect 1000 points and took home a trophy that was bigger than all the kids! It was my son who helped win it for them...the boy who didn't talk as some of his classmates had labeled him talked that day. What a kid!
Get your son to a competent child psychiatrist and have him tested, please. Autistic kids and their parents now have more resources than ever. Best of luck top all of you. You are special to have been chosen to be the parent of an autistic child.
Our son went to countless therapists and went through occupational and vision therapy and we were always told he was learning disabled. Nothing worked. Finally, we were referred to a child psychiatrist who spent five minutes with our son after reading our information sheet, came to us in the waiting room and said, "This kid is autistic!" I slapped my head and said, "Of course he is. Why didn't I see it? I have an MS in Psychology but back when I was in school, autism wasn't in the English language. So our son was 13 years old before being diagnosed and after that, his school was able to develop a special program tailored just for him. He is now 32 and is very high functioning, thank goodness. He lives at home but has a good life. If he had been properly diagnosed earlier, he would not have had such a difficult time. He is brilliant and funny and talented.
Two quick stories to let you know what autistic kids are capable of. He talks when he feels like it and I have always told him I love him just as he is and if he feels like talking, I will listen but if he doesn't, he and I communicate very well without words and I love him just the same. His father, however is always pushing him to talk more and our son resents that. One day, his father came in holding a book...Steven King's latest novel. He set it in front of our son and said, "Open the book to any page and read to me." Our son looked at him, thought about it for a moment, opened the front cover, read, "$24.95 and shut the book. Our other son and I fell on the floor while his father said, "That's not funny. I paid $24.95 for that book!" I replied, "We know. He just told us!"
When he was ready for 8th grade, we were encouraged to mainstream him into a regular school as the special school he sttended could go no further. We chose the best school district in the area and bought a house there. His science teacher called me one day and said they were going to be participating in the Academic Pentathalon and she wanted our son on the team. They had rehearsals everyday for a month after school. Twenty other districts would participate and the team with the highest point level would win the area trophy. The night before the meet, our son told me that he needed to read The Scarlet Pimpernell for the meet the next day. It was 7:00 p.m. Luckily, Half Price Books was nearby and still open and they had a copy. We did a speed read and I wrote questions for him to answer and he seemed to know the correct answers. Problem solved.
Parents were invited to attend after the regular meet was finished for what was called The Great Big Super Quiz. I drove the 40 miles, eager to see how his team fared. I took a seat in the stands of the gym and found my son's team at their table. I waved to my son and was rewarded with a super smile. Then the head judge announced that the Great Big Super Quiz that year would be the music of the 50's and 60's. The world's leading expert on the music of the 50's and 60's happened to be my son, as autistic kids have phenomenal memory skills. I had to laugh. People around me probably thought I was nuts but it was so ironic! Well, the judge would play two seconds of a song and a team member that wanted to answer had to hold up his paddle. Each time, one paddle went up before anyone else's. Guess who's? He not only knew the name of the song, but the name of the artist(s), the label and the year it was popular. One school scored a perfect 1000 points and took home a trophy that was bigger than all the kids! It was my son who helped win it for them...the boy who didn't talk as some of his classmates had labeled him talked that day. What a kid!
Get your son to a competent child psychiatrist and have him tested, please. Autistic kids and their parents now have more resources than ever. Best of luck top all of you. You are special to have been chosen to be the parent of an autistic child.
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