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Bit better of a day so far .. i think ...

Jul 20, 2008 12:00AM - 8 comments

Feeling a bit better still down a lot though and I still have random thoughts of suicide from time to time. I don’t know why but I find my anger flaring up a lil more. Just random things **** me off a lot, from the way mom talks to me like a child too people who are just too nosy. On a good note someone said hi on plentyoffish seems like a really nice gal, I’m kinda scared of the idea of another relationship still. I know I don’t really know this girl but I feel like a lot of the times in the past my “unstability” has really hurt my relationships. That’s something that no person deserves, I would like to be with someone again but I want it to be on more stable terms. Something that I can build on without sabotaging myself and not knowing it. I know looking back at my past relationships I have done some really stupid things mainly without thinking of it and I don’t know whether to say its because of how I feel sometimes or just my lack of experience in relationships in general. None of the relationships I’ve ever been in have ever really lasted to a serious level so to speak. They have always been either short or super intense (either physically or emotionally) and I feel in many ways that’s where I’ve kinda killed my chances at a true serious relationship. Not to mention all the times I got into relationships that were just wrong to begin with such as too young, married, have a boyfriend or just knowing that it would be a dead end in some way.
Now that I’m wanting to get help and to try to get myself a little more stable though its kinda frightening in that area. When I’m talking about myself how do I say anything about it, “hi my name is tony, I’m 28, single, love writing, am a major sucker for romantic movies and novels, currently seeing a psychiatrist, ohh yah and love fishing”. Definetly something I won’t be talking too much about at first, will be interesting though if I get asked out on a day that I have to go to counseling or whatever you want to call it. In a way though makes me feel better that there are still gals that are interested in me and gives me a reason to want to try to help myself, well get the help I need to help myself and understand why I get so messed up sometimes. I don’t understand why on some days I get so low, and why I can go a lil crazy at times, okay a lot crazy. Would be nice to have a day where I don’t pull a yoyo about 20 times in a day. Maybe actually get out some of the feelings that I have or at least figure out what the feelings I have are.

Well today in general didn’t go too badly ended up helping the rents to get their stuff moved, and on a positive note the rest of the day went by alright  I went out for coffee with the same gal I was talking to last night she is actually a pretty sweet gal. Loves animals, artistic, very much a family person (at least from what I gathered), works with the physically and mentally challenged, articulate and very very pretty. She actually has a very soft voice though hard to hear sometimes, but her eyes are just beyond beautiful. Im an eye and lip person, I have difficulty hearing sometimes and pay close attention to faces, actually in general a very pretty woman. Who knows where things might go but I do want to take it slow and get to know her first and still work on getting myself a lil more balanced. She seems to be a very understanding person though which is good :D but all in due time and has actually asked me out on a second date, maybe a movie night in  which I would love, I don’t really want anything sexual to happen between us yet but I will admit I think she would fit just perfectly in my arms. Been a bit of a morale booster actually she said I was very cute :D okay I gotta wipe off the grin now !

Anyhow back to cleaning and sorting out my room I wouldn’t want her to come and see this mess !!



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by lonewolf07, Jul 20, 2008 06:23AM
What you have written in your journal for today sounds quite reasonable for someone who is depressed.  I have suicidal feelings a lot and try not to act on them.  The mood swings - in fact depression - is awful.  It often goes with anxiety, at least it does for me.

Hope you have success on plentyoffish.  Maybe you should talk about fishing; a lot of women enjoy fishing, worms and all.

Hugs and good thoughts to you

wolf




by lonewolf07, Jul 20, 2008 06:24AM
PS:  Just noticed you're in Ontario - I'm in Toronto - but I'm not a snob  = )




by tony040780, Jul 20, 2008 06:33AM
LOL good to know and actually i did mention it, i know what you mean all too well. The few friends i have left have been trying to help me a lot, not nessecarily by monitoring me but just keeping an eye on me, talking when i feel down or suicidal, and when i go on my psychotic (for lack of better wording) little upswings by letting me know, and trying their best to keep me out of trouble. They arent always there but with the support they have givin me the physical scars ive caused myself are starting to heal and hopefully once i start councelling (which im still dreading in many ways) some of the emotional ones might follow suit. But all in due time, for now im just trying to take it a day at a time and literally in baby steps.

PS: Nothing wrong with living in toronto ... except the leafs im sorry to say :(

by lonewolf07, Jul 20, 2008 09:49AM
When I first came here I was suicidal and still have the feelings.  There are some really caring and supportive people out here.  You'll make some real friends too.  They are the ones who are "there" even if they aren't online; they are mentally with you.

Counselling isn't so bad; it's a lot of work but ultimately it's worth it.  A good therapist can help us find the answers as soon as we know what questions to ask.

Toronto's hockey team is an embarrassment.  I'm hanging my head in shame  = (    Good thing I'm a Montreal and Pittsburgh fan.

Playing for the buds - that would be a GOOD reason to come to MH and join every Forum  = )

TTYL

wolf






by tony040780, Jul 20, 2008 11:49AM
Thank you i needed a good laugh and as soon as i saw the leafs comment put a good smile on my face.

I know counselling isnt bad just kinda a lil nervous about it in general, although would be worth it to me in many a ways. Im tired of my emotions being so very unstable and whether i mean to or not scaring people away with them. Plus there is one or two people that i really like and would like to ask out but i dont want to do so till i feel my head is a little better secured. plus i used to be a leafs fan and would love a psychologist to explain to me what it was that i was thinking.... j/k im sure youve read some of my blogs / journals though and know what i mean about feeling so confused constantly and being all over the place emtionally ive put up with it since i was in my teens and always did my best to hide my depression, as well as the marks i made on my wrists but now im not quite as strong as i used to be and have a very difficult time holding myself together some days.

Your right though nice to know i have a few e-friends and im sure ill start making real ones in time :)

by lonewolf07, Jul 20, 2008 05:07PM
Don't ask a therapist about being a leafs fan.  You'll definitely be locked up somewhere  = )

It's "natural" to feel nervous about counselling, especially if this your first time going.  I do understand your feelings of being emotionally all over the place and scaring people away.  If you feel it isn't time to ask these women out then you're probably right.  It depends on what kind of people they are.  Genuine people will accept you as you are; the phoneys won't.

Admitting your depression is a good thing.  Letting it just sit in the dark makes it stronger and increases its hold over you but bringing it out into the light shows it - depression - for what it is.  A bit like a vampire; it feeds on your emotions.  IMHO admitting your depression shows you have a lot of strength and it takes strength to deal with it.

You'll have good and bad days, like the rest of us but you already have an advantage - you're intelligent (except for your taste in hockey teams  lol) and you are aware you need therapy.  You'll make friends - virtual ones and real ones.

Maybe even go to a hockey game  = )

wolf




by tony040780, Jul 20, 2008 05:30PM
well luckily the gal im talking seems to be okay with it we got into a little bit of a chat about our personalities and i mentioned i can be a pretty emotional fella at times she seems to be okay with it. I know i just dont want to open up about it right away maybe after a week or two once im sure that it wont scare the heck outta her, not quite something you want to open up about right away. But not going to wait months just dont want to say it right up front so to speak, not something i want to admit till i at least have a bit of a chance to get to know her. As for taking her to hockey games the only team that plays locally could be beaten by 6 year olds lol

by lonewolf07, Jul 22, 2008 12:46AM
Maybe you should try baseball games?  lol  Even then I'm embarrassed to be from Toronto  = (

Most people CAN handle the truth but sometimes timing when revealing the truth is necessary.  You're right about getting to know her first - just to see what happens.  People want to be on their "best behavior" when they first meet someone they are interested in.

I'm really tired so will hopefully -

TTYL





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