Vacation Blues
Jul 23, 2008 06:27AM
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This week, my husband is on vacation. Things don't always work out like we wish they would. I hate that I am hurting the way I am while he's on vacation. He gets 3 weeks out of the year to enjoy himself and I feel like I am ruining one of those weeks. He is very understanding. He tells me I'm not ruining it for him, but I know he would like to be doing things that I just don't feel like doing. He finally gave up and went fishing this morning. He thinks since I don't feel like doing anything that he is supposed to sit here with me. I try to get him to do some things he wants to do w/out me, but he says he's happy just to spend time with me. I don't know what I would do without him. He is so sweet. But still, I can't help but feel bad b/c I don't feel well enough to help him enjoy his vacation. Life really ***** when you feel this bad all the time. I could fight the fibromyalgia b/c I'm used to that, but w/ this endometriosis and stuff, on top of the FMS, it is very hard to fight it and just go about your daily business. It will hopefully soon get better after the surgery on the 11th. The hospital called and verified everything yesterday. They will be calling about pre-op testing and stuff for the week before my surgery. Kids register for school on the 6th and with my luck, registration day will be the day they schedule my pre-op testing. At least I did find out that surgery is 11th, and students' first day of school is the 13th so hopefully I will only miss Thurs. and Fri. with the class. (the first 2 days of school) That won't be bad. They can use this time to get to know one another and get back in the routine of school while I am out. I just hope recovery won't take more than a week. One kind friend on MedHelp suggested I can meet w/the sub before this. Our town is a small rural place and I know all the subs. My principal assured me we would get the best sub for me since it is the beginning of the year. Also, I have a special education teacher that will be teaching with me this year, so she will be in there which will be a good opportunity for the kids to get to know her since she will be in there all year anyway. Things have a way of working out b/c God takes care of us! Everything will be fine and work out great. (some more of that self talk)
Dear Karen,
I'm asking God to bless you, your recovery, all the kids and husband too just for good measure, and hope you are feeling a little better just because you deserve to ... (and have your laptop back). *note: You can put the keyboard of a destop down in your lap in a "pinch" if that will help with pain in your arms.
I really do understand about feeling like &)i! all the time and how it wears you right down to the nib, well I meant nub but maybe for the teacher nib is better? There is a possibility that your husband would enjoy staying home with you, you certainly know him better but I've been on the other side of the "fence" too and was happy to forgo a vacation for reading in bed and lots of other lazy comforts during my vacation, when hubby was ill!
I hope your surgery goes very smoothly and recovery is easy, but laparorscopy isn't alway easy to recover from in a hurry. I'd be a happy to talk about my two experiences in PM's if anyone has questions, just know you aren't alone if you need to ask anything! Walking is a good thing but it really helps to have someone around for getting up and down the first few days and don't tough if out... if you are in a lot of pain the regular pain medicine won't be enough... there is a BIG difference between accute and chronic pain, and your recovery will go more smoothly if you can just rest at first... and you can't do that without adequate pain control.
I know you want to be getting ready for school and not surgery but the way you are feeling now just won't do... so have to just expect the best, allow hubby to pamper you if he wants and if you aren't able to handle a day out of bed without pain Sunday, shouldn't push yourself to try and be there for your "kids" Monday! Rushing will just slow d-o-w-n the recovery as the tummy doesn't like to be poked and prodded and has a lot of pain receptors and connections it will use to "tell you about it". I don't mean to scare you at all but wish someone had told me these things beforehand and hope my experience will do somebody some good!!
Best wishes for a full and fast recovery dear lady, (((gentle hugs))) Susie
I'm asking God to bless you, your recovery, all the kids and husband too just for good measure, and hope you are feeling a little better just because you deserve to ... (and have your laptop back). *note: You can put the keyboard of a destop down in your lap in a "pinch" if that will help with pain in your arms.
I really do understand about feeling like &)i! all the time and how it wears you right down to the nib, well I meant nub but maybe for the teacher nib is better? There is a possibility that your husband would enjoy staying home with you, you certainly know him better but I've been on the other side of the "fence" too and was happy to forgo a vacation for reading in bed and lots of other lazy comforts during my vacation, when hubby was ill!
I hope your surgery goes very smoothly and recovery is easy, but laparorscopy isn't alway easy to recover from in a hurry. I'd be a happy to talk about my two experiences in PM's if anyone has questions, just know you aren't alone if you need to ask anything! Walking is a good thing but it really helps to have someone around for getting up and down the first few days and don't tough if out... if you are in a lot of pain the regular pain medicine won't be enough... there is a BIG difference between accute and chronic pain, and your recovery will go more smoothly if you can just rest at first... and you can't do that without adequate pain control.
I know you want to be getting ready for school and not surgery but the way you are feeling now just won't do... so have to just expect the best, allow hubby to pamper you if he wants and if you aren't able to handle a day out of bed without pain Sunday, shouldn't push yourself to try and be there for your "kids" Monday! Rushing will just slow d-o-w-n the recovery as the tummy doesn't like to be poked and prodded and has a lot of pain receptors and connections it will use to "tell you about it". I don't mean to scare you at all but wish someone had told me these things beforehand and hope my experience will do somebody some good!!
Best wishes for a full and fast recovery dear lady, (((gentle hugs))) Susie
praise god for u karen and for people like u
i pray ur recovery goes as smoothly as possible ... i agree with susie ... if u pull somethng and end up with a hernia because u pushed it u will not be any use to ur hubby and the kids at school ... take it slow .... take all the time u need to recover so u can be there for them the way u want to and probably always have been ... i have been blessed with experienced and dynamic teachers for my kids ... some of whom i swear loved them ... i think of u like i think of them and would want them to take care of themselves first :)
God richly bless this amazing woman
love
sharon
i pray ur recovery goes as smoothly as possible ... i agree with susie ... if u pull somethng and end up with a hernia because u pushed it u will not be any use to ur hubby and the kids at school ... take it slow .... take all the time u need to recover so u can be there for them the way u want to and probably always have been ... i have been blessed with experienced and dynamic teachers for my kids ... some of whom i swear loved them ... i think of u like i think of them and would want them to take care of themselves first :)
God richly bless this amazing woman
love
sharon
Karen,
Although you look at it as if you are ruining your husbands vacation, I bet he is looking at it that he is so glad to be home to help you and comfort you while you are feeling so low and in pain. Remember, in sickness and in health, right? I felt somewhat the same way while recovering from my surgery. My fiance wasn't home everyday but was able to spend every night and weekends with me for a month while my boys were at their dad's. We NEVER get that much time alone and I felt guilty because I was so tired, in pain, etc. but he just loved being able to take care of me and comfort me. That was a good feeling so concentrate on that and you will feel better! Prayers for you that everything will work out just fine with school!!!
Hugs,
Colleen
Although you look at it as if you are ruining your husbands vacation, I bet he is looking at it that he is so glad to be home to help you and comfort you while you are feeling so low and in pain. Remember, in sickness and in health, right? I felt somewhat the same way while recovering from my surgery. My fiance wasn't home everyday but was able to spend every night and weekends with me for a month while my boys were at their dad's. We NEVER get that much time alone and I felt guilty because I was so tired, in pain, etc. but he just loved being able to take care of me and comfort me. That was a good feeling so concentrate on that and you will feel better! Prayers for you that everything will work out just fine with school!!!
Hugs,
Colleen
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