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Alzheimer's - My Mom is Getting Worse

Jun 21, 2010 - 4 comments
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My mom's memory is getting worse.  She's 83 and it's getting to point that I don't know who she is.  She's nice one moment and then happy.  One minute get's great wants to go each and 5 minutes latter she doesn't feel like it goes to bed.  I don't know who I'm talking to.  What's really bad is she doesn't remember our communications.  Last night while reading in my room my mom appeared in my door and looked very confused.  She said, "I thought I was in the hospital."  I said, "No mom your home now."  She responded, "No, I'm suppose to be in the hospital!"   She looked so confused.  I got up and walked her to her room and put her to bed.  It's like she had no life at all.  I believe she also has Bipolar with her different moods up and down.  She can sit there and rock back and forth playing with her hands and just crying.  I ask her what's the matter, and she says she doesn't know.

Mom has mentioned that she wish the lord would take her. She's tired of living - she just sits in her chair all day long.  Can't cook, because her knees hurt,  arthritis in her hip, etc.  At times, with my Bipolar, I have a hard time dealing with it.  I have early stages of Dementia and the two together doesn't mesh.

My dad as vascular Dementia/Alzheimer's, but he's not as bad.  He keeps himself busy all the time.  He also has Sundowner Disease.  I mean he can be really down.  Both parents posture has changed - they hunch over and walk very slow.

I live with them and take care of them the best I can, but it's getting harder.

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by heartfluttersflyawayplz, Jun 21, 2010
wow your a very stronge person to take care of them.  my mom also has it and got it around age 65 so sad to young, shes 70 now and they say shes in stage 6 there are 7 stages to it . shes forgetting lots now like her mom has been gone for 2 years but she thinksshes alive still, dont remember she had 4 girls, or where she lives. its a sad thing to get i pray i dont get it and  my sister dont either . but her mom had it and her moms mom had it so i think we 4 girls have a good chance of getting it , but i will pray it off. hang in there i will pray for you as you take care of your parents you will be blessed when you meet our father in heaven

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by vickie5989, Jun 21, 2010
Thank you.  I didn't know I could be strong.  Battling bipolar and early stages of Dementia.  But something about having the responsibility of your parents who were there for you for so long sorta changes things.  I was a real handful all the way up until I reached my 40's, now 58.  They were there when I thought about suicide and I checked myself in to rehab.  I'm a recovering Alcoholic since March 2009.  They had to take care of my bills, get me out of my apartment.  Just so much.  Now I feel like I there for them.  Although my dad is a hard case.  He's very negative and with Alzheimer's it can get worse.  I just go to my room and take a pill. :))

I don't what the stages are.  She is on Aricept, but I'm not sure she's taking it.  She has turned to wine.  She says it's her crutch and no one is going to take it away from her.  I'm afraid it's becoming a bad habit.  I know, because I was there.

I really appreciate your kind words.  I know things want get better, because once the disease has you that's it.  My dad's mom, sister and brother all had it and died from it.  I don't have a chance.  But I will fight.  That's why write in my blogs and have my little eBay store.  It keeps me focused.  

Again, thank you and I wish the best for you as well.  Maybe I'll hear from you again

Vickie

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by dcgj45, Jun 22, 2010
My Mama died Jan.4th 2010 of Alzheimer. Possibly the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with! GOD is the only one that can help! I not going to hit you over the head with the Bible. You must come to it at your own terms. BUT He is here for us. You and your Mom. Doctors can slow it down with pills. But NO ONE can stop it. Pray for her passing peacefully!!!
My Mama was not in a lot of pain! It's harder on you then her, I would Call hospice ASAP because they can help!!! MEDICARE AND MEDICAID  Take everything out of her name the house the car everything NOW of ASAP so the government can't take it. Call the Alzheimer's hot line 24/7 They can help too. Read the new testament about Jesus life and how he Loves us me, you and you Mama! It helped me and still does! Don't worry it does no good.... Nothing good has come out of worry!!!!!

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by vickie5989, Jun 23, 2010
Thank you that was straight forward.  My dad although he has Alzheimer's works to keep hie mine going.  He works in the yard keep his flowers going, redoing our concrete patio, spends time at his computer doing solitary. On the other hand mom sits in her chair staring at repeats of gunsmoke - western movies.  That's all she does.  She has two bad knees that have been replaced, has really bad arthritis in her back and hip.  She doesn't use her mine.  She says she ready to go to the lord.  I am afraid she won't wake up one morning and I have myself prepared.  Nothing is in her name.  It's all in dad's and he is taking care of everything right now.

Thank you

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