I just need to speak my piece about my feelings right now since I haven't voiced them out loud to anyone yet.
I am now 16 weeks pregnant. Baby has been doing great. We find out the gender in 2 weeks. I am personally so excited about this. Although I have 2 children, this will be my husbands first and I want this to be a great experience for us. Unfortunately it has felt nothing but the opposite. I get no feeling from my husband about this at all. Every time I mention something baby related it seems that I only get sarcasm in return. I don't understand why this is happening. Even last night I told him I found a crib I really like and his response was something like "Well I am not sleeping in it and your not so...". Seriously, what does that even mean?????
I have been bottling up these feelings for weeks. Its worse when I see other girls husbands being so incredibly supportive and I cannot believe I am saying this but when I was in my previous relationship and prego, the father was so incredibly attentive and caring during the whole process. Maybe because I have experienced pregnancy like that in the past I am looking for unrealistic expectations???
My husband is not a really sensitive or emotional guy by any means and I understand that but I just feel like I am in this alone sometimes. I ran into one of his friends at a restaurant the other night and he asked me if Jason was excited... I literally froze for a second knowing the truth is no I don't think so... I just told him "He is a guy, I guess he is excited in his own guy way". Seriously how embarrassing.
Another thing is we just bought this beautiful new house that has a beautiful room for a nursery. We just painted it a light neutral color when we moved in and talked about painting it again after we find out the sex. Well it turns out I actually love the way it looks with the neutral color on the walls. The lighting in there make it look so soft and baby like. So I said to him I don't think I want to paint it after all. It looks really nice the way it is. And he said "Good, I dodnt want to paint again anyways". It might not sound so bad but if you could hear the tone this is said in you would completely understand.
As far as our relationship goes nothing has changed really. He seems just as into me as he ever has. We still are intimate pretty regularly and hug and kiss and all of that. It just seems like we are married and do not have a child on the way. I just dont know what to do.
Because I have been so angry inside about this I completely freaked out on him this morning about something little and his first reaction was to insult me and call me lazy. Geez, I just don't even know anymore. I ended telling him not to talk to me and to stay away for me. And let me tell you I really meant it. I really dont want him anywhere near me right now at all!!! I just want some support and to feel like I am not alone all the time. I am sick of hearing him talk to his friends on the phone and being sarcastic about it. I have decided I dont even want him to go to the gender ultrasound with me. Whats the point. It seems hopeless to me at this point.
Please advise me.... Anyone else going through this??? Is this typical of men??? Am I just totally overreacting???