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She's pregnant again!!

Aug 26, 2008 06:19PM - 6 comments

Okay, that 'friend' of mine whom I had thought her baby had DS, well... I had my reservations about her.. Mu baby's father swore she had taken some pills that her boyfriend got off a friend for 'himself'.. Not sure why but he says he KNOWS that she took some. Not even sure what they were, pain pills I'm assuming.  She smoked ciggarettes and weed through her whole pregnancy, and complained the whole way through. She complained about her baby doing things all the time, and he seems more of a burden than a joy, to her. She was 15 then, she's 16 now and has another baby due on the exact day her last one was due!!! I'm so mad about this because she was so careless.. She doesn't even appreciate what she DOES have and she seems to have no life plans and will probably be living off of state welfare and her parents for the rest of her life. They can barely afford the one they have. What were they thinking? And here I am trying to figure out what is the best way to go about doing things to get an education, a good job, money, stable home, a good foundation for Riley before even THINKING of EVER having another one. Even though, if I were rich and life was perfect, I'd have another one in a heartbeat.  But all this just makes me so angry. I guess it's really none of my business...

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by Rosa20, Aug 26, 2008 06:27PM
there nothing for you to do hun! I would back up and look at what you have and what you have done for riley!! Your doing a great job and if she wants to be careless and have another then theres not much you can do about it..or her at this point..maby when she gets two she will relize and be more careful..lets hope for her babys sake she grows up and gets some education!! Your right to be angry tho...because your not rich..and life is never perfect but hun your time will come when everything falls into place!! Trust me..it took me two years as a single parent for it to come to me but it did!!

by mj_mommy_manda, Aug 26, 2008 06:37PM
This is what you get to go through when you are mature.. Seeing other people make stupid decisions and screw up their lives (and in your friends case the lives of her children) I go through the same thing.. With me its more with Travis, some people just have that type of personality and care WAY TOO MUCH about other people.. Thats the great thing about being level headed and wanting to make something out of yourself (can you believe there are people out there who could care less?) needless to say, I feel really sorry for this girls first child and the one she has on the way.  Maybe you should let her know the affects that smoking could have on her baby, and if she doesn't listen at least you tried.. You aren't a bad person for being worried, anyone thinking right would be worried.

by peggy64, Aug 27, 2008 07:55AM
All through your life you will see people making stupid mistakes. We just have to let it go, and think they are doing the best they know how, even if it is not the best thing. Because we make stupid mistakes to other people.

The important thing to realize here is that you have absolutely NO CONTROL over others decisions. Do they have any control over your decisions?  No, only you.

If you do not learn to let go of this, Kelsey, you will drive yourself insane, because stupid mistakes have been happening since the beginning of time.

I am speaking from experience here. Not judging you, just what I know from experience. I have learned that I have to say, Lord there is nothing I can do about this, and I am placing it in your hands. He is much more capable of dealing with it than I am.   It was driving me crazy because people wouldn't do what I thought they should. But then I realized, I don't do what others think I should. I am only responsible for my choices.  You are only responsible for yours. Not theirs.

That is not to say you hate to see people making bad decisions. Sometimes it hurts so very bad, because you hate to see them doing something you know will have dire consequences. But there will be dire consequences for you, if you keep on trying to control and obsess over these things.  The consequences will be health wise.....trust me,






by KStarr07, Aug 27, 2008 05:42PM
Okay.. Thank you peggy, but just so you know I'm not obsessing or trying to control. I'm just very upset by it and I haven't really thought much of it since I wrote this. It was more of just venting out my frustrations so I didn't say anything to her.

by peggy64, Aug 27, 2008 07:31PM
Good for you...

Riley is a beautiful baby.  he is so precious.

My precious babies are 23 and 18....they are not as cuddly, but they are still precious to me.  

Have you started school yet? what grade?

by KStarr07, Aug 27, 2008 09:37PM
:) It's nice to see mothers who care deeply for their children no matter what age, that's rare around here where I live.
Thank you.
I am supposed to be in 11th but there was a huge drawn out incident involving me, my ex boyfriend, and my mom that sort of resulted in me not going into school and being held back. I know, I know. I sound like I'm making up excuses, I'm not. I'm just saying that it wasn't all me and my choice. ;)  Lol.. So anyway I'm a sophomore. I have to wait to get some more documents, an application, and a couple other things and then I'll be applying to an online school for this year until I get caught up. My mom is going back to school too, college.. And I trust no one else completely, to watch my little guy so I'll be here with him. I'm happy with that. I may be able to take on an almost-double course load this year, since I know most of the stuff from last year, and focus on getting to the grade I need to be so I can graduate on time, and taking care of Riley.

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