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I am so angry at all men including my husband

Aug 27, 2008 05:18PM - 27 comments

I am so sick and tired of men and their laziness. I work with a bunch of lazy men at myjob that wont clean up after themselves. In the jet engine world you have to clean as you go. the tiniest little object that can get into an engine cna fod it out and cause unecessary damgae and death to people when the plane goes down because some lazy MAN didnt think they had to look for the bolt or nut they dropped.
Case in point I am working with 3 women. Nobody has to tell us to clean up, put our tools back where we got them,Get our Technical orders out( directions for assembly /disassembly) and so forth. But all five of the men I work with have to be reminded to the stuff. they are supposed to be doing or they ask one o us women to do it for them. # of them wont even check out the tool box or get the supplies they need for the days work. They just go get ours ( the womens ) without asking and without returning where they got it.
I ordered 6 pallets today to ship our parts out for repair to the back shop.Be fore I could turn aound all the other vulture men from the rest of the shop swooped in and started taking them. Now why couldnt they have got their own pallets? I will tell  you. LAZY!!!!!!!
  These lazy men are so used to ordering about the women in their lifves that it shocks them when a woman says no to their request.
Oh now let me start on my husband. He always talks like he is irritated. He acts just like the other men in my shop. Now here is the one man that I thought wouldn t act like othermen
Ok I am bipolar but I have been stable now for quite some time But just let me be irritaed or sad or happy or any other emotion He ALWAYS asks me if I took my meds. I just want to scream You bonehead you were sitting right there while I was taking them.  He says I treat him badly HA!! who washes his underwear, cooks his food,makes his lucnch and tries to get him to eat healthy.
Last night I asked him what he wanted me to make hime for lunch and he said Nothing. So I didnt . Then he went to the cafeteria to get a crappy 6 dollar fried chicken dinner.After this past weekend telling me how I need to save money. So you know if wants to eat himself into the grave well I just dont care what he eats anymore
So why is ok for the MAN to be irritable, sad etc but not the WOMAN? I dont think so  I am not being bi polar  but he cant see that
I am sick to death of selfish,self centered lazy men.
Hubby says to me check the eamail while I am on computer when he as a laptop right there in the livivng room with him, now what was wrong wiht his lazy butt?
So tonight I am going to what ever I want to do. I will make my own lunch and be damned to what he want s to eat.
I have had enough between the stupid men at work and the lazy man I am married to.
Vee



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by mommy2two2008, Aug 27, 2008 06:32PM
AMEN SISTER - AMEN!!!  :o)  Rant on sister!  I have a stupid man of my own!

by Backgammon48, Aug 27, 2008 06:40PM
Hold that thought when Saturday evening, Christmas, Valentines Day, your birthday, etc, roll around and you are alone and don't feel great.  Don't feel like meeting men and don't have one.  It can be lonely, ALONE.

by April2, Aug 27, 2008 06:45PM
Ha Ha Ha! I hear ya! I say Amen too! :D
I think all us woman should go on vacation TOGETHER and leave the men in charge of the kids and house for a couple of weeks. Sounds good, doesn't it? And it sure makes them appreciate us better when we're gone for awhile. I think we need to do that once in awhile.
How's a cruise trip to Hawaii or the Bahamas sound, girls? I may never want to come back! :)

by AR-10, Aug 27, 2008 06:58PM
Come on!
I'll starve to death!!!!!

by MaryLynn1, Aug 27, 2008 07:10PM
Good for you!  Maybe if he has to fend for himself for awhile, he will rethink his words! Go girl go!!

by mommy2two2008, Aug 27, 2008 07:15PM
LOL AR - I leave some nice deli sandwiches in the fridge for ya!

by Jules77733, Aug 27, 2008 07:37PM
I know the feeling...I went to a college that was 75% guys and anytime I was annoyed or upset (whether it was at one of them or not), they would always jokingly say, "Feelings...that's what girls have. It comes from their ovaries." It was funny the first five times, then it just got really annoying. I didn't call them "too emotional" or "melodramatic" when I was listening to many of them rant about their girlfriend problems or when they were really frustrated with coursework and I calmly taught them how to do something or when they were diagnosed with depression (I had a few friends suffer from this) and were experiencing an extreme low in their life that I talked them through.....

And I really like guys, too! I tend to hang around guys much more than I do girls. But sometimes, guys are just so...insensitive...and it's like they don't GET it.

You really have a right to be upset about the "have you taken your medicine yet today" comment...you're a human being, just like the rest of us, which means you're entitled to experiencing and expressing a wide array of emotions. If your husband didn't want deal with these emotions, he could've married one of those blow-up dolls. I doubt it would make his lunch for him, though. Additionally, us women experience mood swings as a result of our cycle, but that doesn't automatically mean we should be labeled b!tchy or anything--we can't help how we feel sometimes, and that goes for mentally and physically. Don't let anyone make you feel like your disease is who you are, because that's not the case at all. If I were you, I would begin gently pointing out to the guys at work (and rally the other women there to do the same if they feel the same way and have noticed the lazy men) that they need to do things better; i.e. don't let them take your pallets, even if you don't use all of them that day. Tell them that they need to order their own. When they start realizing that their job will be on the line unless they plan ahead and actually DO the work on their own, rather than mooching off of you (because you won't let them get away with this any longer), they'll begin to shape up...though I can't guarantee they'll be happy about it lol.

The genuinely compassionate and caring guys are the best ones to fine (guys: take note!). While they're a rare breed, I do believe there are still some of them out there... =)

by melissajean, Aug 27, 2008 08:25PM
I know! its like when they act "b****y" its ok, its just cause they had a hard day...but when we're acting "b****y" its because we're on our periods or something!!!! and it doesnt matter what time of the month it is, if im upset about something he always asks me "are you near your period or something?"AAAHH!!!! MEN WHY DO YOU DO THIS!

by mirabella45, Aug 27, 2008 08:58PM
WOW!

by KD9ER, Aug 27, 2008 10:08PM
Ahhh the dorito commercial comes to mind.  The one with the executives watching the construction men at work and the lone female actually working....well rant on!  I think you have a right.  I've let my house go to pot because my husband thinks he does all the cleaning around here!!!!  Well let me tell you...the last two weeks have been bliss for me because I haven't had to get up or clean up every crumb.  Although the house looks like trash.  Guess he'll have a lot of cleaning to do when I leave next week with the little one.  Hmmm...we'll see who's the messy one!  

Sorry.  I guess we all have our moments.  Feel free to rant.  I think we can all relate.  And I'm with you on the emotional thing!  Who cares that we actually express our emotions.  Da*n them for not!  I'd rather not guess what the blank look on their face is for.  Men need an instruction manual.  Bottom line...there should be a code word for cleaning, cooking, laundry, and the workplace.  It would be a lot easier!

by ChitChatNIne, Aug 28, 2008 08:03AM
And, Venora .. add this to the list -- remember, after your very extensive thyroid surgery when you went back part time and they expected you lift something really heavy ....  C~

by lagoya, Aug 28, 2008 04:50PM
can't resist

hee hee
u see woman cant stop taking about us men when we are good were good ,when we are bad ,we are notorious


by Venora Moonwind, Aug 28, 2008 04:51PM
yep chitchat ,I remember.LOL
AR You are not incluced in the I hate men rant

All of you You made feel much better. I had a little run in with the REALLY lazy one when he tried to take my foreign object debris boxes tthat I made my self. I told him to get his own. He got mad, I got mad  I back off when he told me I have been treating him like S**T I told I apologize but he really needs to get his own stuff as he doesnt work in our area any more.

Hubby is much nicer today. I really love him but arrrrgggg.

I finally feel really good for the first time in 2 years. Its like I have my brain back. So these guys are just going to have to get overthemselves.

thanks again.
Vee

by Venora Moonwind, Aug 28, 2008 04:52PM
Back gammon I know you are right I would be very loenly without my hubby.
Vee

by peekawho, Aug 28, 2008 05:00PM
You made me laugh!

by TrudieC, Aug 28, 2008 06:08PM
So funny.  Here in Canada they did a reality TV show where all the women in a small town left (not sure if it was a week or a month) and left all the men to take care of the houses and kids.  I didn't watch it but apparently it was to poke fun at their inability to cope on their own (the men that is).  

by suzi-q, Aug 28, 2008 06:31PM
Nothing I can add, just want to join my sisters and say AMEN to that also!

by Sandymac, Aug 28, 2008 10:19PM
Hi Vee,
    Wish I could make you feel better.. I've been married over 50 years and guess what.... "some things never change" .. LOL ..it just gets easier to deal with somehow...And you vent all you want.. that's what this journal is for !!
Trudie.. I don't think we had that program on down here but I bet it was a riot !! They truly are all the same !!!

by Jules77733, Aug 28, 2008 10:56PM
I interned at a pharmaceutical company for the past 13 weeks and most of the people I worked with were older guys. Most of them were really nice to me, but once I got to know them they all told me, almost unanimously, this one piece of advice: "NEVER GET MARRIED." They said that marriage "ruins everything", "isn't all that it's cracked up to be", and that they "miss" their "single lives".

One guy even told me that he tries to distract his wife by taking frequent weekend trips to the beach (NJ or DE shores) just so they aren't around the house, because she'll make him "do work" like build a new deck, repaint a room, etc. He seemed really stressed about this, too, so I tried telling him to talk to her about it and figure out a compromise where he doesn't feel like he has to work all the time...but he said that's just the way she is and there was no changing her...so he was willing to spend lots of money on gas and hotel rooms for those weekend trips!

I had to laugh...I actually miss working with them! I can't say that I don't feel sorry for their wives, though.....

Just thought I'd share these insights!

by utahmomma, Aug 28, 2008 11:32PM
Amen my good friend!  AMEN!

Hey, about that reality show in Canada - can we sign up here?  Please, please, please - let all the men in my life live without me for a week.   Hey, wait, the lived without me for 5 days while I was in the hospital and when I came home the house was trashed, the plants were dead, the dogs and cat hadn't been fed, and there was a huge pile of laundry.  Oh, and my boss called me at least 5-10 times a day to ask me how to do something at the office.  Try just walking one of them through running payroll and taxes while you are on an IV and morphine pump and the person you are talking to is completely computer illiterate.    Wahoo.

And about the being lonely - I can't remember how many Valentines Days, weekends, birthdays, Christmases, etc. that I have been completely forgotten by my S.O.   Lonely is one thing but taken for granted is another.

Vent on my dear friend Venora.

(AR, you are excused from the above-mentioned rant)

by cowboy20022002, Aug 29, 2008 09:49AM
hey I am not one of those guys but I do know were you come from

by cowboy20022002, Aug 29, 2008 09:53AM
by the way ladys I do clean and cook and wash clothing not ever guy is like that

by j34, Aug 29, 2008 10:08AM
Something my Mother told me what we created the monster by doing these things for men and then all of a sudden we are like well I don't like this anymore!I didn't like her explanation! but it sure makes sense.

by BANDIDA, Aug 29, 2008 10:31AM
Funny how they never seem to have any trouble when finding their NUTS and what they think is a Bolt (haha) when they need to scratch!!!!!!!

by jainyjox, Aug 30, 2008 05:14AM
There was a time when I was working, so earning money, doing the shopping with the money,  putting the shopping away, then cooking the food I had bought, taking the plates away and doing the pots.  I did the  clothes buying, the picking up of the clothes, the washing, the ironing the putting away for my hubby and for my son.  Eventually I went on strike and did nothing.  Now I do what I want when I wnat.  When hubby complains the house is a mess and that he is embarrassed about it, I just shrug and say clean up then.  hAHAHAHAHHA.

by nissah46, Aug 30, 2008 03:17PM
Sometimes mothers do everything for their sons, and the males learn to expect it from women. I grew up in a family of 8 kids, 3 girls, 5 boys. We all had to do dishes etc. My brothers still do this in their families, whereas my husband never had to do a dish growing up, and I do the dishes in our house, although I don't mind as he works very long hours 7 days a week. So women, get your boys doing household chores at a young age.

by Shawna3019, Nov 10, 2008 07:55PM
I agree with you 100% I have such a man at home also. He thinks we are back in the 1950's were women cooked and cleaned and took care of the kids!! And men just went to work came home ate dinner and watched the news and that was there day!!! I went to school full time, cooked dinner, worked, took care of four kids  cleaned the house (was always cleaned when he got home from work, and dinner done!!! I would leave for school sometimes without eating dinner and come home at 10:30. House would be a mess, dinner plates still on the table, kids did not have teeth brushed and sometimes where not even in bed (the little ones are 4, and 5!!! so i would spend the rest of the night cleaning up and trying to study, I dealt with this for 3 years finally when i was done with school, I quit my job and know i sit at home untill my 2 small kids are in school full-time.He is not happy with this !!! no extra money coming in but at least i do not have to be up untill 2:00 in the morning any more!!!! And now i do not slave to make him happy because he did not care about if i was happy or not!!!! Men are Lazy!!!!! And cry babies!!!

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