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Dec 16, 2010 - 3 comments

I can understand that some people have never had to deal with a miscarriage or the sense of loss it leaves a woman with but do they really have to be so ignorant and hurtful?

I just had the most horrible experience with someone who I considered a close friend, she actually asked me "How can you grieve for something you never even had?" Now maybe its just me but that has to be one of the horrible things anyone has said to me.

Although I never got to bring my baby to full term, I did have him/her for over four months and i think that counts for something!!! I know this girl has never been pregnant but surely as a woman she should know better than to dismiss a pregnancy like that.

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by dolphinscry07, Dec 16, 2010
Wow..I am truely sorry and completly understand what you are feeling. I had an eptopic preg. and had to have surgery, some of my friends didnt understand how i could be so upset and grieving over a child that was never even in my uterus. But to me I still lost a baby no matter if i saw that child or not, I was 12 wks pregant when i found out that the baby was in my tube and i just kept thinking I should be hearing a heartbeat not going to surgery and losing a child. I am sorry once again for what was said, I guess some people just wont understand unless they suffer the lost as well.

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by msfrank107, Dec 17, 2010
I'm really sorry for your loss. Nobody knows what an emotion rollercoaster it is to lose a baby, and deal with the aftermath also. I really hope you have all the luck in the future.

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by Sarahfinah, Jun 16, 2013
I was about 6 weeks when I found out I had an eptopic pregnancy. I didn't even know I was pregnant until the doctor told me. My best friend and sister (both of them have kids) told me at least I didn't know I was pregnant, so I couldn't get attached to the baby. My husband and I had been trying for a year. The second I heard I was pregnant I was attached. People really are insensitive.

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