Sep 05, 2008
So last week we had another episode of teenage drama. Since last school year, our son has known to be home by 4:30 pm every day to check in. He's pretty much given an hour after school to hang out with his friends, etc. Well, last Thursday he didn't come home ... and he didn't call (which he usually does if he wants to extend his time). So, needless to say, we were freaking out. He finally came home about 2 to 2 1/2 hours later and lied about who he was with. Hubby went in his room to talk to him and when he came out (very angrily) he told me our son looked high (and my hubby would know being a die-hard former pot smoker himself).
The big talk and following punishment were not discussed with him until Tuesday evening, however, 'cause he left for his mom's house the next day. He and hubby had a big talk Tuesday night on the back porch and he's grounded for a month ... he's not allowed to go to school early or stay late ... he's not allowed to get phone calls ... friends are not allowed over ... and he's been asked not to associate with the people he got himself in trouble with (but he sees them at school, which we know we can't control).
Well, this is not really my issue/rant/vent. I just needed to explain the backstory of that day so my rant will be a little more easy to understand.
So yesterday, our son came in the office and was talking to me about what he talked to his dad about. Hubby hadn't told me a couple things about their conversation, so I was finding all this stuff out. Apparently, his best friend is about two months pregnant and he's known about it (I think he said he was with her the day she found out). She hasn't told her parents yet, and from what our son told me, she doesn't want the baby ... however, she knows when she tells her mom, her mom won't let her get an abortion or give the baby up for adoption (I think b/c of religious reasons).
*Then* our son tells me that it's not her boyfriend's baby ...and she's actually not sure who the father is because she slept with two other boys. Apparently this girl has had quite a few sexual partners ...not just these three. Here, I felt bad having sex with five people in my 27 years on this planet ...and she's had way more and is only 16!!
Now, on top of all this, we recently found out a couple weekends ago that she smokes (and has been giving our son cigarettes when they hang out). Not only that ...but she was one of the people our son was getting high with last Thursday!! I know she doesn't want the baby, but it infuriates me that she would do that to her unborn child (Side note: my son's mom smoked pot with him, which he mentioned to me when I ranted yesterday like he was trying to defend the fact it's ok to smoke pot when you're preggers, but it still pisses me off). I try so hard to eat healthy and take care of myself and the baby ... and knowing there are so many women out there who have trouble conceiving or carrying a baby to term ... and here's this 16 year old girl who doesn't give a $hit!! Ugh!!!!! Rawr!!!!!
I completely advocate abstinence if you're under the age of 18 ... but I'm not stupid. I know teenagers will do what they want. But c'mon ... if you make the choice to have unprotected sex (and with multiple partners, no less) use a condom ...get on birth control. You have so many wonderful child-free years ahead of you!! I would probably be more understanding if she had just gotten pregnant by sleeping with her boyfriend (there are many dedicated teenage couples who end up having kids early and whatnot) ... but to sleep around, not know who the father is, *and* mistreat your body ... I seriously want to smack the girl.
His friend was already banned from our house because of the smoking pot thing ...but now that I've been told about this, I'm sure that was another reason as well. All I know is she better stay away from me ... my hormones might make me say something nasty. =D
Ok, rant over ...*whew* thanks...