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Heartbroken and hanging by a thread

Oct 11, 2008 08:52PM - 2 comments

Ive been married for 26 years and been with my husband since the age of 17.  Out of the blue 2 weeks ago when he returned from a camping trip and said sit down i need to tell you something.  Then he proceeded to tell me that he no longer loves me and hasnt loved me for a long time and would like a separation.  He never told me about how he felt before, we got along great, still made love even the night before he went away on his camping trip.  I am devastated, hurt, and don't know what to make of this.  He is rushing for the separation agreement.  I have two kids who are over the age of 20 and are taking this bad also.

His father lived with us for 20 years, he got sick last year, battling cancer, and I was asked to care for him at home until he passed away.

I feel so used, worthless, can you tell me why my husband would do such a thing to me?  I have been there when my husband has lost jobs, sickeness, always told him I would stand by his side.  I am so lost and hurt, I cry all the time.  He does not want marriage councelling, he says, it wouldnt change how he feels.  How can he have deceived me for so long?

I really need some answers, I just don't know what to do

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by aheart, Oct 12, 2008 05:35PM
Goldie,  I'm very sorry for your pain and I know how painful it is. Alot of times men in their later years start thinking is this all there is going to be for me and they will stray. It doesn't help if they have a willing female. My parents went thru this and it doesn't have to break up your marriage, it didn't ruin theirs. Is there someone else in your husbands life? You din't mention in your post, these mid-life crisis 's are usually temporary. Tell him that he at least owes you the truth about it, and he can't fault you for seeking counseling. Tell him you won't agree to anything until he goes to counseling. Was he really "camping" Theres alot more to his story and counseling would benefit both of you. If nothing else it halp you deal with getting the wind knocked out of you after 26 years, he owes you that much! Men! so selfish and self serving!
If you need to talk I'm here to listen.Again, I'm sorry   aheart:)

by Goldie21, Oct 12, 2008 07:09PM
he say's their isn't anyone else.  he refuses to go to counselling, he say's it wont change a thing



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