not able to please

i have E.D.  i'm doing research to find the right pills for me.  i'm going to the doctor in a couple of weeks.  also, i can't please my wife.  we haven't been intimate since june.  i've tried everything i can think of to please her.  i've tried oral and massaging her there.  nibbling.  i don't know what else to do.  can anyone give me suggestions on how to please her?  i'm afraid if i can't figure something out, we'll end up getting a divorce.  i need help.  please?