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Memory loss after stroke

Feb 05, 2008 12:02AM - 1 comments
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stroke rehabilitation

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brain damage

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Memory loss



My boyfriend of 3 years suffered a stroke late November 07 after surviving cancer, he was 29. The doctors said the damage in my boyfriend's brain is permanent, the stroke was not severe enough to handicap him but it has affected his memory and mental capacity. They are unsure if he'll ever recover his memory fully. He is recovering slowly but still has trouble remembering people including me.The problem is he went back to his country in June 07 for a job so we live in two different countries at the moment. A friend of his has been keeping me updated and I have been emailing my boyfriend constantly (he can only check emails from the hospital) but all I got was a single email saying that he doesn't remember me.

Right now I'm writing him a letter telling him about our story, where and how we met, what we've done together and what we've been through, God I'm so glad I'd kept a journal about our relationship together it's helping me alot in writing this letter. I've taken pictures of things he has given me and put together all the letters/poems he's written me. I love him so much and can't imagin losing him so I really hope this would help him remember me. I'm not expecting him to remember everything at this stage I just want him to remember something about us, anything, until it's time for me to travel in June 08.

I'm really scared and depressed. I feel so lost I don't know what else to do it hurts so much that I'm not there for him and knowing that he has no recollection what so ever of me or our relationship. He has pictures of us and his friend has told him a few things, still he couldn't remember.

I've been told that my boyfriend is leaving the hospital in March 08, physically he's doing good but still no improvement on his mental state. The doctors aren't hopeful, it's been almost 10 weeks since the stroke. It's frustrating but I need to stay strong and not give up.

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by kim111, Feb 05, 2008 06:26AM
It is too hard to give up on someone you love. It sounds like you are in it for,"the long run." I want to tell you a story about me and my husband.

The day before our marriage I collapsed with a seizure. The drs. thought it was exhaustion. It was cancer,a brain tumor. I had two major brain surgeries and I lost my memory. I had no idea who my husband was when I woke up in neurotrauma ICU. He kind of scared me. I had also kept a journal. When I learned how to read again (with a lot of help from a speech therapist and my husband,Matt) I began reviewing those journals. It is 4 years later and I remember more than he does. This is very funny to us now. I had a lot of trust in him after I understood who he was. He was very persistant since we hadn't even had a ,"honeymoon." He was sweet, funny and obviously loved me. I trusted my therapists. I had to, I couldn't walk then either. I also remembered that I once trusted God. My faith was the real turning point. I did a lot of the work but I may not have achieved success without faith. I am currently battling pancreatic cancer. It will lose. I am lucky to have other interests like writing and playing music. Turn to your writing for answers too. I noticed you said that,' writing this' has been helpful. Keep it up. Take an interest in others. You will not feel so alone with your challenges. I will keep you in my prayers today. kim

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