Feb 09, 2008
My husband of 20 yrs. had a nervous breakdown recently, (suicidal) after I got him home from the hospital he confused to me that he had slept with another woman twice (during the past summer) and fooled around with two other women in the past 5 yrs. I had no idea, I thought we had a great marriage. We never fought, have 3 kids and no big issues. He has pledge his love to me and vows he has no idea what happened and will do what ever it takes to make this right with me. I suspected something was going on during the summer with this women and he kept saying they were only friends. He now realizes that she manipulated him into turning against me (thats what the doctors say during his therapy sessions). We have gone to marriage conselor and really don't have any issues to discuss with him, only the affair business and he have been over that many times. My problem is that I can't get the picture of them two out of my head. I'm alone throughtout the day and that seems to be the worst time. My kids don't know what happened and I don't want them too. Should I seek medication? I don't like the way they make you feel. Does anyone have advice on how I can get that image out of my mind or is it just going to take time? I might be stupid but I still love my husband and I want our relationship to work. Of course if anything else goes on with him, (which he swears will never happen) he's out on his butt. By the way, he's a police officer and I hear (especially from the doctor's) this happens a lot. Any advice?