ivf, first and last try....

hey i want to know if you can give me info. on IVF ...
its cuz i have 4 kids....
well after da forth one i got my tubes tied....
and know i want one more pregnatcy of twins.....
i really dnt know to much about it.....
all iknow is that it is easyer than gettin my tubes revered....

Good luck with your IVF!  It's a pretty amazing thing.  I wanted to say, that our first cycle, we got 8 eggs, 6 fertilized, but by transfer day, none were really good quality. Our second cycle, we got only 3 fertilized, but one was good quality and I got pregnant (miscarried later). Our third cycle, we got 4 eggs, all 4 fertilized, on transfer day all 4 were good quality, and I am currently pregnant. My point being, don't be too upset if you don't get a lot of eggs, because all you need is one.  Also wanted to let you know that in 17 months of ttc, I had never gotten pregnant by any other means (natural, injections, IUI, etc.) so don't think that just because you have never achieved pregnancy in the past that it can't happen for you this way.  sending SSBD your way...

Oh sarge1, thank you SOOO much!!!  You give me so much hope.  I have been following your posts and I am so happy for you!  Thank you so much for your good wishes.

SHORTYZ,
you should make an appointment with an RE and talk about your situation and what is the best way to proceed.  Also, ivf can cost over $10K so you should check if your health coverage will pay for the procedure.

I understand your fears, especially with the amount of $$$ and emotions you have invested in this. Just try and focus on one step at a time right now. You are still very young (Yes! You are!) and your body, although it has betrayed you in the past, is about to be super-over-mega stimulated to produce eggs. I am sure at least one will be the Golden Egg! I know it is hard to stay positive at times b/c you want this so badly, and b/c sometimes we hear about bad news of others. All I can say is, time will tell and there is no sense over-worrying now, as it won't change the outcome one way or the other. Just GO FOR IT!!! If God forbid, you have a reason to be sad later, you will have support. Just don't be sad in advance when you may not need to be :-)

Oh Helen I feel for you. Don't try and accept that you might not ever be a parent, that is so difficult to handle. On the other hand, I've known alot of people who simply "gave up" and they got pregant. One couple even went as far as adopting two twin girls from Russia and then they ended up having their own after 12yrs, jeez can you imagine? I wish those were our success stories but unfortunately that's not the case. Don't give up. HeathJo is so right, you are still young. Don't put added stress on yourself, this is stressful enough as it is. I know that when I found out about my tubes and not being able to concieve naturally, I was so depressed. I felt like I wasn't a woman and that I was a failure. I didn't realize how strong I could be until I was faced with this situation. We are alot stronger than we give ourselves credit for and it's okay to have breakdowns and feel negative but don't let it over power you.
Sending a ton of love your way.
j

Hi Helen,
I feel the same as you.  I try not to stress over it too much.  You and I are about the same age and I have been trying to get pregnant for 7 years!!!  Granted I have only started fertility tx for past few months but I also have NEVER been pregnant NEVER even had a false (+).  Have you ever considered adoption?  I dont know if that is a route I will take or not.  My DH and I are very close BFF so if we dont have any kids I guess he will be mine and I will be his and we will spoil eachother and travel and just love on our nephews and nieces, godkids etc....  I dont know if i would adopt.  There is  a lot of baggage with that but I know several people who have (older patients of mine) who absolutely love it and think it was the best for them.  To each his own.  Well I truely wish you the best.  I really hope it happens for you
Dina

Stay focused on the cycle and being positive.  Tell yourself everyday it is going to work if you have to.  Don't think the worst yet!  Many woman are successful on IVF #1.  Unfortunately I am not one of them but you certainly can be!