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I didn't mind my husband doing that because I know how tired my son has been from karate to school work.  He's really an exceptional child.  Not because he's my son, we've heard that from his teachers, his principal at school.  She called it some big word, like bi-something intellegence.  The  karate instructors everywhere when we go to the tournaments.  My son is a master at the bow staff & the nunchaku weapons.  I'm worried about him.  My mom stays with us now that my dad passed away and it's difficult for me to give all my attention to everyone.  It's bits and pieces.  My mom is depressed a lot and that kind of rubs off on him and me.  I do a lot all day, rush to get him to school, a lot of days my mom will take him to school while I get ready for work, rush to pick up my son at school rush to take him back to my mom's house, rush home to cook for all of us, do dishes, laundry and hardly any time to play with my son.  I'm burnt out on everything.  My husband pushes him a lot to do his karate and is pretty strict with him.  My son has never been grounded and has never yelled at us the way he did last week and has wanted to go to school.  I'm baffled and don't know what to do.  I am not a calm person anymore, since my dad passed away.  I am very stressed and I'm sure he can sense that.  I talk to him, but I don't feel like I getting through to him.  He's always afraid that if he doesn't want to do karate or something else that we will be disappointed in him.  I like to talk to my son.  My husband doesn't agree with talking. I set a lot of boundries.  I don't let him go outside and ride his bike with the other kids unless me, my husband or my mom can watch him.  We live next to a football field and there is always cars speeding past.  The other kids are much older and I don't like the language they use out there inf front on my boy.  My husband and I both had strict parents.  My dad was military and my mom stayed home.  My husbands father was military also and his mom stayed home too, but he had 2 sisters and a brother.  My son is an only child.  I had 2 older brothers.  My husband has 2 children from another marriage a boy 30 and a girl 20.  They are both a little dysfunctional.  My step son has never worked a day in his life, has a 6 yr old daughter.  My step daughter was sent to a military rehab school because she was out of control.  My son doesn't care that much for his step brother, but simply adores his step-sister.  I am a Christian person, but when my stepdaughter walks into our house or where ever, my son thinks she can walk on water and is all the angels themselves and that scares me and I don't understand it because she only lived with us for 4 months when she was 17.  I don't want my son to end up like his (steps).  I know I sound horrible, I just don't understand what is going on with my son.  What do you think?