Am I being ridiculous?

I dont have any advice as far as the having 2 goes. But I think if you are worried about interaction. I would set them up on the floor with boppys and pillows, and put some music on rather than the tv, have them face one another with the toys and see how they go. Do this when you have the time to do it with them so you can see how it goes. Then when you aunt needs to cook or what have you she can do this(if they are in her view)
I know Quinlan loves music as almost every child does. Also do you have jumperoos? You can play some music with them in those also. Or exersaucers. These are ways to distract them and they have things to play with so they are being stimulated. Other than that Im not sure. BUt liek you said you do what you have to do. I dont know how people with 2 do it alone!! I struggled with 1 and some days still do and she is alot more independant now!!

But I can assure you that I am sure you are doing a fabulous job and Im sure you are worry a tad too much as you feel guilty having to work as we all do.

Oh and I thought of something else. The crock pot best best friend. Do you have any crock pot recipes? I would suggest perhaps having ur aunt prep that the day before and you can just throw it on in the am, or you can prep it the night before and then that elimates her time in the kitchen and she can be more hands on with the boys

Good Luck!!!

Thank you.  Yes, they are in their walkers now, so that does keep them busy. Yes, they have an exersaucer too.  I do put them on the floor too with their toys and books so I am doing all of that.  I think its me lol.  

See look at that you just said everything they do there isnt much more they could be doing!!!! Your doing great
Its normal to be worried about interaction.
I know somedays I try to play with Quinlan and she just wants to do it herself. Those are the days Im kinda sad. But then if I leave the room. Nope not allowed so I just have to sit there and watch her play hahaha
So as whatever makes them and you most comfortable :)

I know, I'm all over the place today.  I sometimes feel like I just don't know if I'm doing everything right.

Who says what you arent doing isnt right? Who says what Im doing is/nt right. Its all a matter of what is right for us. There is no right or wrong. There are opinions of others, we all feel all over the place more often than not.
Journaling always helps me even when they make no sense to anyone but me LOL
Im always here to listen!!! HUgs!!!

That's true.  lol  Yes, getting your thoughts out seems to help me too.  Thanks for listening!

When my little ones were little and I home school the bigger one's through a internet program but still need to read books with them and practice writing their name  sorta like working  has to get done . But Id get big lego's and blocks or put the baby in his high chair with crayons the big ones he loved it  and of course I let them watch movies  but the educational one's like leap frog really helped them later on and they were learning as babies :) don't feel bad  i'm sure they feel fine .

I don't have twins but I have 3 kids all 2 years apart.  You're not doing anything wrong.  Visually the tv is probably stimulating a part of their brain.  My daughter screams if I don't let her watch dora or diego.  Pat yourself on the back - nobody has the right to judge you.

It is hard being a parent. Laden with guilt about "doing the right thing for our kids" One thing I will add is that children thrive on very little input and go on to develop very well even if they are allowed to watch tv or not. Lack of stimulation helps children develop their imaginations and logical reasoning. You are doing a wonderful job : )

Did not mean you are not doing anything> Yikes just reread what I wrote. All i meant was dont be so hard on yourself. I am sure you are doing a wonderful job : )

I can't imagine how difficult it'd be to put in 4-5 hrs of work on top of taking care of my twins all day! You are doing fine and I'm glad your aunt is able to help out! I still need my mom's help some days (every day when they were younger), and that's just so I can get regular stuff done like laundry and dishes and run errands. I know exactly how you feel though about not doing enough or "the right thing" for the kids. I have been feeling like somewhat of a failure lately because of comments made by my mom and my husband. They imply that I don't take the kids out of the house enough to expose them to new environments, but when they help me take them somewhere to play, it is a 2 person job and we're both exhausted by the end of it, yet they somehow expect me to do that alone on days they're not able to help. I just try to remember that every parent deals with criticism from others, so we just have to do what we can and not let it get to us. My kids may not get as much exposure to other people and places as they might have had they been singletons, but they also have a constant playmate at home and are always able to interact with one another even if I am unable to play with them while I do chores, and I think that's better than if they didn't have a sibling to entertain them while mom takes care of other things. I think your life will get easier when yours are old enough to play with one another - mine certainly did. I completely babyproofed the room off my den and put a gate across the doorway, so letting them play together in there allows me some freedom to accomplish things around the house. Mine are 15 mo and really started playing together when they were about 10-11 mo (when they could both crawl and sit well on their own).

Hahaha!  I had to chuckle, cause my in laws have said more then once that my twins are going to be tv babies.... What is a mom to do when there are 2 of them, 1 of me, and laundry, cleaning, cooking, dishes to do???  Of couse, I could "let it all go" but, what would we wear?  What would we eat...eat off of?  Would they then think their grand babies live in a pig sty?  I often wonder.  I rotate them from walker, to excersaucer, to jumparoo, to floor on tummy and on back with their floor playset.  I sit with each if them and practice sitting up too.  But, there is times throughout the day I must get things done :(.  I do have the tv on. I watch Kelly and Michael, and then sesame street and another kid show...then I may switch it to hgtv for a while.  

Don't worry about your DH....I call them growing pains, not getting pissed off.  We have spent several years together, doing what we want, when we want for however long we want.  It's a damn big adjustment!!  Ask him what he would like you to do different in that situation, and I almost guarentee he will say nothing.  

It is dang hard to do anything alone too!  I hate to remind my husband 3 times tonite that he has to be home in time to take the twins to swim class tomorrow night, cause each kid needs an adult, and there is only 1 of me....

read a blog called Pregnant Chicken. There is one entry about "why you are not failing as a mom" or something to that effect. It's a few months old. Hysterical and honest and you are way too hard on yourself.

If I find I will cut and paste for ALL OF US...

http://www.pregnantchicken.com/pregnant-chicken-blog/2012/11/9/why-youre-never-failing-as-a-mother

The picture is hilarious on the first page...

I can't tell you how great it was to read all of your comments.  I can't tell you how much it means to me and how much it greatly helped.  I'm sitting here balling my eyes out because I have so much going on with my mom right now, its been really hard.  From one day to the next, I lost her help ( my dad's help too) - my aunt stepped in thank God but its been dfficult.  
Just last week, Alex decided to start waking up in the middle of the night.  I've been just giving him a bottle, first thinking he was just in pain with the teething.  Now my best friend is a nanny - she has been telling me I need to stop it and let him cry it out.  I don't have an issue with that, but he shares a room with Michael.  I'm not in a huge house, so moving tothe other bedroom doesn't exactly block it out either.  So I decided last night  give it a try.  What a nightmare.  I was up at 3 with Alex - crying it out - I stuck in him the swing in the living room and for about an hour he did nothing but cry.  At about 430 I tried to put him back in the crib thinking he would just fall off.  Nope  - up making noise and now woke up Michael.  So then I said the hell with this, gave Alex a bottle, he went right to sleep.  Then had to give Michael a bottle and he went back to sleep too.  So I got back to bed at 530.
In the middle of all this, my mom has been having a very difficult time with this round of chemo.  My father sounds exhausted and very upset.  I can't get there, I'm an hour away and so is my sister.  So I've been sitting here this morning trying to figure out what to do and how to split myself up all over the place.  It's just not going to happen.  
Again, thank you so very much because it really did help to get this off my chest and have you ladies help me.  THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!  I didn't take a look at the webpage yet, but I will thank you usak! Now Alex is up and crying lol.  Never ends..... :-)

sending hugs your way- I will be back to comment- but I think it is VERY normal to feel this way! I have been in a panic thinking I am not doing enough.  We started going to story time at the library and it has been great- stories and music and rhyming in 20 minutes!  I noticed there are a lot of older ppl there with the little ones they look after.  Maybe you can find soething like that and go with you Aunt so she can actually see how interactive you can be with baby.  
I gotta run- but call me or text me! I miss you!