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Mar 23, 2013 - 10 comments

Well, I guess I will be leaving this site for awhile. At one time I always seemed to be able to get support from friends(?) on MedHelp. Now I can't get responses from messages or notes I send. Have I done something wrong? I am at a point right now where I could really use some support and encouragement. My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic and bladder cancer 2 weeks ago. Neither are related. He is going to have the Whipple procedure done on 4/8/2013. Saddened that can't reach out for support during this trying and troubling time. Wish the best for you all.
mommy52 (Maddie)

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by Bubulous, Mar 23, 2013
I don't believe that we have ever talked but I am on here most of the time and if I have ever noticced a post from you I would have responded to it.  Unfortunately the depression forum is hard sometimes to get support on because well.....most people who come on here are depressed.  However I am on here a lot and if I can offer any support I would be more than happy to do so.  

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by Bubulous, Mar 23, 2013
If you have already gone I am sorry that this happened to you.  If you see this and want to talk you can message me and when I get back on in a little bit I will message you back.

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by nursegirl6572, Mar 23, 2013
I haven't seen anything you posted except this.  If I had seen anything else, I would have most definitely replied.  

Please remember that the weekends are usually VERY slow around here.  Seriously...things slow down to a low murmur on the weekends.  You're feeling very overwhelmed and stressed, so you are probably feeling like you are being ignored.  I can promise you there are LOTS of people who would love to give you loads of support.  As for the notes and messages, I know it takes me a while to get back to people sometimes, and if I ever slack on anything, it's those.  I'm here every day, and if someone has sent me a PM I try to respond, but if it is repetitive to the things they may have posted in the forum, I try to respond THERE as everyone benefits from reading the conversation.  I'm so sorry you feel as though you aren't getting support, but I can promise you that isn't intentional hon.

I noticed that Bubulous mentioned the depression forum.  I'm actually the community leader of that forum, and I can tell you that, indeed, it's not always easy to get a reply there because a lot of people there are dealing with their own depression, and sometimes are struggling to just get through the day.  I try to reply there as much as I can, but admittedly, I spread myself a bit thin some days. You can always post on multiple forums (if you haven't already).  

Just take a step back, take a deep breath, and try to post again on Monday when things pick up.  There are so many incredible people on MH who TRULY do care about others.  I'm here for you, you are in my thoughts and prayers.  Feel free to PM me anytime.  I promise I will get back to you as soon as I can.



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by nursegirl6572, Mar 23, 2013
I wanted to follow up...I just looked at your posting history.  I only see ONE thread posted by you in the Pancreatic Cancer community a few hours ago, and then before that, you hadn't posted since October.  I just want to be sure I'm not missing something somewhere?

It looks like the Pancreatic Cancer community doesn't see a lot of activity, as there are other posts that have not been answered either.  Definitely look around and post in a few different places.  There are many forums where your questions would be appropriate.

I just wanted to reassure you that if indeed you only made this one post, in that forum, theres very good reason you haven't seen any replies...being the weekend AND being that that is a slow forum.  Same with the PM's and notes...on the weekend, you definitely have to allow more time for people to see your message/note and reply.  OK sweetie?  I think you just sort of overreacted because you were looking for someone to get back to you a lot faster.  I can't blame you, I'm sure you're full of questions and anxiety.  I'm so sorry you and your hubby are going through this.  Must be terribly scary.

Hang in there and definitely NO giving up on MH that quick...got it?  :0)

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by jimi1822, Mar 23, 2013
Hey Maddie,

    We are here for you =0) Please don't leave so many have for one reason or another some have passed but I
    Personally think,with FaceBook being so popular a lot of Our friends are communicating VIA FB. I am on FB
    Myself but would never post any of my personal things I don't feel comfortable putting my feelings and past on
   such a public forum. I been on MH since 2008 and feel Very Comfortable here I remember you =0) try to make
   New friends and you will see people need help and are very gracious to extend a helping Hand especially in your       Time of need. Tomorrow at Services I will keep you,and your husband in my heart felt Prayers and Blessings andI will light a candle of special intent along with a gift for our Brothers and Sisters in need at this time.

                                                                                                Please don't leave We Need You =0)

                                                                                                                       Prayers and Blessings AlWays

                                                                                                                            jimi (lil wing =0)
  

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by jimi1822, Mar 23, 2013
Sorry for the type errors I'm typing on my IPad =0)

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by jpv1, Mar 24, 2013
I will always talk with you Im on every few days and Im just starting my TX in a few weeks so Ill be on here for quite awhile. I can tell you Ive gotten alot of support and great advice from people on this site. Just keep your head up and network some friends and Im sure youll be fine Beast of luck! John PS here for you anytime you need to talk

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by cheflady, Mar 24, 2013
hi maddie i am so sorry for what you and hubby going through but just want to let you know we are all here for you and if you feel like letting off steam please feel free to send me a pm and i promise to get back to you. Just want to say my mum is 76yrs young and she had whipples diseae and was treated sucessfully at the age of 69 and to celebrate her 70th birthday she was climbing down from base camp of everest! she also did the annapurna trail what im trying to say that she is now perfectly healthy and divides her time between England where we live and kathmandu helping install water wells and building and funding local schools!i hope you can feel that you can get in touch remember we are all here to help and support you. Please get in touch, stay strong and all the best with the tx. Please let us know how you both get on. Love Jules

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by April2, Mar 24, 2013
I kinda know how you feel. Most of my friends have left or rarely come around anymore so I took a break too. Hadn't really been on here in about a year but came on a few times here and there, especially the last few weeks but barely got noticed. Guess I've been gone too long.
Sorry I haven't kept up with all the latest or been there for you too. Hope you will still come around and post and get support. Pm me if you like. I wish you and your husband the best. My prayers are with you both. Take care, Maddie. Peace and blessings.

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by mommy52, Sep 21, 2013
Well I haven't been on for a while. My husband passed on 8/29/13 after a 6 month battle with pancreatic cancer. Some say he lost the battle but I choose to say he fought the battle and WON! Please continue to keep my family in prayer.

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