Mar 16, 2009
Okay so this is my friends situation.
Which I think is ridiculous and horrible for the child!
My friend has a boy who is 6 months old now! She was living with the father who is 30 and still living at home! She had a place of her own before she has her baby, but because she lost her job and the father didn't want to move there for whatever reason she had no choice but to go there.
The house is the dirtiest place ever! She then finally had enough in January and tried leaving! She went to a shelter then that had a fire (no one was harmed) so she went back! Then after she went and stayed at a friends but this guy thought he could "get some" from her so she left, I don't know why she didn't ask me if she could stay at my house, probably because she didn't want to ask too much and I had a baby of my own.
So this is the scoop, he didn't treat her very good at the beginning and all through out anyways, he didn't give her money to do anything. He would change his mind all the time about the relationship, first he would treat her like a bag of dirt than others he would act like the sweetest person in the world.
I do think she may have pushed thinks a little bit too much because when she did leave and he didn't answer her phone calls she just kept insisting....not for her sake but for her sons........I can understand but I don't think she should have bugged him so much. His parents are fat and dirty and they will agree on anything when it comes to the father having there son!
When she lived there she would try and clean and they would tell her not too!! Its pathetic..........
Now just yesturday she was downstairs doing her own thing taking care of her son and all of a sudden the police were there!!
The father called the police saying he wanted her to leave and she could not take her son with her. 1st she was breastfeeding, and the father lied and said she wasn't and they believed him!! And then they called children aid because the place is a dirt ball (she stays in the basement and she tries her hardest to keep that clean for her sons sake and try as hard as possible to not go to any other parts of the house)!!
I feel for her, because he is being so disrespectful and honestly he is not a good person and he does not deserve his son!
He needs his mother....the bond you get when you breastfeed is nothing you could imagine unless you experienced it yourself, and I was crying for her.
It is terrible........when she told the cops she could go to a shelter they were like that isn't a good place for your son!! Well it is better than that place....and all she thought is that they opened up there home for her and there son to be safe and okay!!
Now today she went for emergency custody and the judge wouldn't grant it all because of the fathers WORDS saying she is a threat to her self!!! He doesn't even have custody!!
Like this is terrible!! OMG, I know her!!!! She has never been that way nor would ever do such a thing to there son!!!
Now her boobs are hurting like you cant believe unless you know!! And all of a sudden switching to fomula I don't think is good at all!!
She told me when she went to pick up her stuff her son was crying and they weren't doing anything, and then she asked if they gave him the medication they have for him and hes like NO!!
Why is this happening, I don't understand it isn't far.....its funny when someone is already in a shelter it is okay because they do get help and then eventually get on there feet and get on assistance until they can get a job (here in Ontario) but why!!! If they say that because she isn't working and wouldn't have any income without the father, so what she has to stay with the father, put up with the mental abuse, put up with all of his **** all because he has the income......it doesn't make seance, even though the help is there if she could of left with him....
Why is this happening, honestly someone needs to do something about it.....and I feel like and *** kicking or worse....that is how angry this makes me....it breaks my heart
And oh today also they said to her (the father and his parents) they don't need her and her SON doesn't need her!!
He will not let her see her son :'(