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Apr 11, 2013 - 12 comments

I think my husband doesn't love me enough. He eyes this other woman in church who is very tall , dresses nice , pretty in her 40s. This past Sunday she was volunteering at the greeting booth. His body language..very excited. then later I caught him looking for her at the booth. Am I paranoid...or I don't like this

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by mia443, Apr 11, 2013
Oh I have confronted him other times about him looking at other women and he has said its natural to glance. I am like an investigator and it makes him look even more.

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by specialmom, Apr 11, 2013
Honestly, men glance.  Don't you check out a good looking man?  It's human nature. The goal is to be discreet and not rude to your partner about it but I do think i tis unrealistic to think someone isn't going to look.  What indicated excitement about it?  

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by mia443, Apr 11, 2013
He wanted to go to the booth while we were having a conversation with other church member...I know its unrealistic..

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by mia443, Apr 11, 2013
I don't check out other men in church when I'm with my husband and son.

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by specialmom, Apr 11, 2013
I glance at people and notice if they are attractive.  It's almost impossible not to.  We are all human.  Doesn't mean I want to leave my husband or be with the attractive individual.  Just means I notice that they are good looking

I just think that there is something else going on here.  You talk about his 'being excited'. what are you talking about?  My husband is indeed friendly with other women and some are beautiful.  It doesn't mean he's going to leave me.  So, I'm trying to figure out the jealousy you are feeling.  

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by AnnieBrooke, Apr 11, 2013
I'm also in the camp of thinking that either you should realize you are married to a normal human being that occasionally finds some woman attractive, or else you should give up and marry a dead man.  Even guys in their 80s perk up a bit when the nice waitress comes around who smiles and talks to them like they are real people.  It's human nature.  It doesn't sound like the woman you're jealous of is casting lures his way, nor like he is casting lures her way, it just sounds like he thinks she is cute.  Can't see why you wouldn't let him have his momentary uptick without getting hysterical.  As special says, it's what one does about thinking someone is attractive, not thinking someone is attractive, that matters.  It doesn't sound like he is making plans over it.

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by mia443, Apr 11, 2013
Insecurity....boredom with me

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by mia443, Apr 11, 2013
Thank you ladies.. I realize my jealousy is naive..and I appreciate your feedback. Its just fear ..no rational.

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by Londres70, Apr 13, 2013
Hon.....he is no different from any other man.  The fact is they look.  Men are extremely visual.  

I look too......doesn't matter where I am.  

Men look at me and my husband has seen this.  I have seen women checking my husband out too.  I always tease him and say....."Look at her checking you out."  Then, we laugh about it.  

Look at it this way......you have him, you are married to him and he is going home with you.....she isn't.

There are tons of beautiful women everywhere and it would be impossible to keep your husband from looking.  

I wouldn't make this an issue with him unless he has a past with cheating.  

You should probably found the root cause of your insecurity.  Insecurity and jealousy are nothing more than "poison" for a relationship/marriage; definitely a "downer."

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by Londres70, Apr 13, 2013
found is supposed to be find.....typos LOL.

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by mia443, Apr 13, 2013
I know..thanks.. he respects marriage

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by mia443, Apr 13, 2013
Thank you londres

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