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Swampy's mom -- hours to live

Jun 30, 2013 - 9 comments

As you get older, little health problems become serious more quickly, and often, it seems, the way to detect serious things is through small changes.

Swampy's mom is in her mid 70s. She is quadriplegic from MS -- has had it since the Carter administration. She lives at home, cared for by 24/7 caregivers.

About 2 months ago, Swampy's mom mostly stopped eating. She told Swampy later that she didn't think that there was anything wrong, if you aren't hungry, maybe you just aren't hungry.

Last week, Swampy's mom started vomiting, and as the caregiver cleaned up the vomit, she noticed the smell of feces. She picked up the phone and called 911.

Swampy's mom had three infections -- a UTI, sepsis, and c-diff. She had respiration problems, and she had two intestinal blockages, this is why the vomit had feces.

Upon being admitted to the ICU, she was treated for the infections and a GI consult. The blockages were cleared, bowels were decompressed, and the c-diff, after a little longer than normal, cleared up.

There were a few problems that remained. Swampy's mom needed a critical care medication to raise her blood pressure. Her bowels were too slow to absorb nutrients. She had scurvy as well -- problems with nutrient absorption.

Swampy discussed the situation with his mother, and based on her wishes, had the blood pressure medication discontinued and transitioned to a hospice regimen.

Swampy's mom has hours to live. Her mouth is covered in bloody sores -- a product of malnutrition. She can't swallow or eat. She can choke out a syllable or two. She can have water from a swab.

Earlier today, Swampy said to her "Thank you for all you've done for me, thank you for being my mom." Swampy's mom looked up and him and said "Don't cry!"

Waiting.


Sadness.

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by swampcritter, Jun 30, 2013
Swampy's mom passed away this evening.

It is time for the healing to start.

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by specialmom, Jun 30, 2013
I am so VERY sorry to read this.  It hurts so much to lose our mothers.  You were there for her and escorted her from this life and that is a blessing.  Hopefully that you know you gave her comfort by being with her will give you a tiny bit of peace.  I'm sad for you.  I'm sad for all of us that miss our moms.  Sending you MUCH peace and hugs.  I don't know you well at all but know the pain you feel.  Time to heal is right.  And know that time does indeed heal.  Peace to you and to your mom.  

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by dominosarah, Jul 01, 2013
I am sorry to read this Swampy.  I know how you are feeling as i lost my mom in November to complications of MS.  I too feel like an orphan but the memories will come flooding back in and you will reminded of the wisdom of our parents.  They are no longer here on earth, they are in our hearts~

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by AnnieBrooke, Jul 01, 2013
Swampy, I'm so sorry, as well.  What a sad thing, though she sounds like she didn't think so, all that much.  In her shoes, I would have said the same thing to my son, just ... look, I'm going to go, don't be sad.  I've rehearsed that speech already at times ... I am a lot older than my son and know we'll have that conversation sooner than will some of his friends and their moms.  It is exactly what moms want to say to their beloved sons when it is time to go.  She was probably glad she got the chance.  I am sorry.  

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by selfinduced, Jul 01, 2013
I am so sorry swampy. May God Bless you and your family now. It seems your mom was ready to go on with her journey. Despite the outward sores etc., I'm sure with hospice on board your mom didn't suffer. Take the time to grieve and then live your life in joy as your mom would wish. Prayers and peace to you.

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by selmaS, Jul 01, 2013
My Deepest Sympathies, it is not easy to be a care giver or to allow one's wishes to take them from us, I commend u on dealing with such a difficult task and helping ur mom move on to her next reward,

<3 ((hugs)) and prayers for u both.

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by swampcritter, Jul 01, 2013
Its heartening to read these comments, thank you.

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by remar, Jul 01, 2013
Aw! I'm so sorry you lost your Mom Swampy. It sounds like you really loved her and she really loved you very much.
You know we're all here to support you and talk to you anytime you need us. Big hugs to you Swampy.

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by ChitChatNine, Jul 17, 2013
Swampy, I am sorry for your loss. I didn't see your journal until today .. you are in my thoughts.  You and your mom had a special bond that's only shared by mother/child.  In her weakest moment, she was able to be strong. That is amazing, and her strength will always be with you. She shared her strength with you.

C~

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