Dec 04, 2013
So DF recently switched companies within his career path. In going to this company he went on hoping to advance from assist mngr to mngr to district mngr and upwards rather quickly. On this app he indicated relocation was not a option for him.
He has recently met ALOT of the big wigs, people who havent come into his store or any stores for years. They are coming to meet and talk with him specifically. Yesterday he happened to meet with a VP of something. And he basically told DF straight out that his wants arent likely to happen given the growth in our area for the company is pretty well complete, they are however going to be opening 500 stores throughout the mid west and west coast etc within the next 2-5yrs, and they are looking at him for that. They state its easier to take someone from within and place them into the new store with experiece verses starting fresh makes sense.
He also stated that although DF maybe better qualified and have more experience than say someone else going for the position if the other applicant says they will relocate, well they are going to get the job over DF.
The VP said they understood its a family, and life changing decision not something to be taken lightly
Now DF has no family, he would up and leave tomorrow. Its my family that is here.
I want to support DF in his career and I know what he does is all for the good of the family. Its hard for me to think of moving more than a car ride away from my family
I always wanted Quinlan to have that once a week family dinner(which in reality we did for a while then it stopped), the holidays with one another(this is what airplanes are for), things like that
I guess Im nervous and its not something we have to decide today or tomorrow but in the next few months and the move would be in next couple of years at this point or at least thats our understanding.
I just want Quinlan to have the best possible life with all doors open for her. I want her to be happy,healthy, safe and know she is loved beyond words.
I dont want her to feel the void of not having family and loved ones around, I dont want DF busting his A$$ to provide for us and make a better life only to miss out on the joys of Quinlan.
DF has basically put this on me. If I think its best we stay put and raise Quinlan here we do, if I think its best and a better opportunity for the family to move we move.
Thats alot on someone's plate!!
I know in my heart the right thing to do is move when the offer presents itself. Its more $, which will help us put Quinlan through college and aide her in achieving her dreams in life. It will help us save more for retirement and be able to do the things we want to do once that time comes. Where now we live in a old money area. If we took our salaries now for example and moved down South we could have a "mansion" for less than we pay for what we have now
And thats not important to me its just an example of one of the benefits in setting ourselves up to be prepared for later in life.
I dont know. Not really sure what the point of this journal is other than to let it all out and I dont know what would you do? Move your "family" away from family to better yourselves or stay make it by your not well off your not struggling really either, and have family and loved ones close........
Oh also we would move/settle before Quinlan enters school.
I dont want her establishing those precious forever relationships and then ripping her heart out and making her be that ackward new kid.
**NOW Df's old company came back to him with a offer of more money, the understanding so they say of why he left and basically saying he loses nothing(opportunities, vacation etc) having left and he will start right back where he was