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Jan 02, 2014 - 1 comments
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This is about my foster daughter.  She is very very sick in the hospital.  To explain briefly, she is the little girl who used to live next door to us, her father left her, her mother became an abusive alcoholic; and with all that going on the daughter flat out quit using toilets!  The school board forced her to be put into incontinence diapers by doctor prescription and she was forced to do regular school work in a special needs class room.  Right before the mother went totally loopy, my wife and I had got her to make the arrangements to have the little child legally signed over to us.  The state however, refused to comply and insisted she be placed into an institution.  We fought against it all and got her as a foster daughter indefinitely.  But she's free from institutions.  This is what happened the other night. - Trying to celebrate the New Year, yet terrified about our little girl's future.  Well, quick recap, a week ago she spiked a bad fever.  It seemed to go up and down a little.  The other day she was doing very poorly couldn't even drink liquids.  Last night her fever shot up to 110 - we dashed her to the emergency room, her temperature continued to go to 112 when they brought slowly back down!  We're still waiting for definitive diagnosis but doctor thinks it's just a really bad flu case.  Getting back to last night.  The nurse came into to change the little girl's incontinent diaper and suddenly she snapped awake and her glassy confused stare she said half muffled; "No! Daddy, find, stinker, find, I'm...."  She just mumbled after that.  While the nurse took care of her me and my wife went into the hallway and we began to spill on about the same memory.  If you want to understand the situation that was once posted on here - finally!  Read this:  The last time the little girl saw her father she was five years old at her fifth birthday.  The girl soiled herself and her mother realized when she set the cake down.  The mother threw a small fit over it.  Her father however rushed right over to her, scooped her into his arms and said right to her face: "You leave her alone!  She's my little stinker!  You don't have to be anything anyone else wants you to be!  You're my little stinker!"  The father then turned around to everyone else there and said; "If you don't like my little girl just how she is, then you can get the (expletive) out my (expletive) house!"  I removed his 'choice' words there.  To bring all this forward now.  The little girl was never told what happened to her father.  I have no idea what she was told or what she thinks.  My wife and I need to have a long talk with her when she's better and back at home.  Her father went out with his friends and robbed a bank!  He was a very 'colorful' person.  The local SWAT unit surrounded his house and took him down right on his front yard!  My wife called me that day terrified, I told her to take everyone and hide in the back bathroom.  If they knock she would have to answer, or they may break our door or something.  They never came near our house.  So the little girl's father is in federal prison now!  Rather than handling the situation her mother became a raving abusive drunk!  She drunk away all the money they had left.  At age eight the little girl started soiling herself and just instantly "quit" using toilets altogether!  She is now ten years old, still wearing medical diapers.  And she will fight if anyone tries to take her filthy diapers off her!  No struggle over the wet ones.  But my wife has to battle her just to try and keep her rash free for Pete's Sake!  We've been the only people in the whole world fighting for her, refusing to put her into an institution.  The state now thinks we are just as mad for going through all of this with three Autistic Children of our own!  The whole point is, most of the time the little girl is super calm and super nice and often when I'm home we sit on the couch and watch Disney movies together.  Now I have struggled with everything!  We stabilized her home life.  We got her completely away from computers to crush any possibility of a fetish coming up.  At one point I hired a Nanny to go with everywhere and make certain at no point she was being exposed "any" fetish!  No children or internet like that.  After two weeks straight I had to call off the Nanny, that was all I could budget for.  We found out the 'while the Nanny was there' the school was taking very good care of her.  The principal still welcomed her and often commented on how pretty her beautiful blonde hair is, and she would compliment her nice outfits.  The principal trying to get her see her beauty and convince the little girl to give up the nasty diapers.  Well, I kept telling my wife when she would talk about it all, it has to be something inside the child's soul!  It's not physical, it's not mental, it's not even a fetish; which is obvious because she doesn't "enjoy" it.  Well, now I know exactly what it is!  Sometime at age seven and eight she created a fabricated fairytale inside herself that told her if she would be a "stinker" than her father would come back to her!  So we fully understand why!  That is why she went so far, in front of friends, at school, everywhere!  Before she was placed into diapers, she was just going, and the school board got onto her mother and made something get done, because she making places all over the school unsanitary and unsafe for other children!  I now believe that she has a mental psychosis; she loved her father more than anything and he loved her more than the world!  Those two together were a picture of family love!  Now I understand why she is so broken up and I have no idea what her mother told her or what her mother did to her during 7 and 8 yrs old.  But I'm going to explain everything to the Best Psychiatrist I can afford and begin working with this wonderful little girl to pull her back from her mental five year old block and help her to see that she is now a very very beautiful ten year old young Lady!  Please Pray that we resolve all of this.  I'm thinking of working with the professional to explain to her about her father and then when she's dry and clean; taking her in the most beautiful dress to go see her father!  If I tell her that he's still here, and how much he would love to see a grown up young Lady, I think my wife and I and a professional can finally end this nightmare once and for all!  Thank you everyone for your cares!  I know my wife was quite abrasive and went after the wrong path to try to solve things on here; but she cares a heap of a lot and she cares so much she gets frustrated.  The little girl and my wife have had a special bond since the child was two yrs old!  At 2 she ran across the lawns and dove into my wife's lap and cuddled herself right up there!  Once you pull away all the bad stuff, she's an absolutely wonderful, adorable person, very smart and very very talented!  That's why we've done everything to keep her out of institutions.  All she needs is LOVE!  Thank you everyone who cared about her and wrote us letters on here - Thank You All.

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by Autistic4Life, Jan 20, 2014
Update: Foster daughter is at home now.  Shes on meds and strong antibiotics.  I have been looking into the psychologist for the other problems.  If any really cares to know,I'll update that in private messages.  The rest will just keep private.  For right now her recovery looks stable.  Thanks my friends!

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