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Shelly Bullard  
Female
San Francisco, CA

Soul Full: How to Get the Love You Want
Love & Relationship Coach
San Francisco, CA
My Posts
Nov 19, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 3
You should probably seek weekly counseling. It sounds pretty serious if you are having the urge to control your eating in such extreme ways.
Nov 19, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 1
I don't have a lot of knowledge on what happens for people emotionally during pregnancy, but I imagine with the hormonal shifts that it can be an emotionally rocky time. I don't know specifically what you and your boyfriend are having issues with, but perhaps you can incorporate some practices to help you deal with your irritation, such as meditatio...
Nov 19, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 1
Hello. It sounds like there has been a history of not being honest with one another, so I can understand your fear that that history will keep repeating--that Jake will cheat on you. The only way to break patterns is to do just that--break them. If you want Jake to be honest with you then it starts with you being honest with him. Perhaps you should talk to hi...
Nov 07, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 4
Hello. I'm sorry that you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for so long. The only thing you can do is change yourself. You have to get back to a place of being happy regardless of him. It sounds like this might be a difficult road--it is pretty clear that you feel a lot of resentment towards your husband. The only way to move forward is to actually...
Nov 06, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 2
You are medicating with men (please read my blog on my website: shellybullard.com). You are numbing out your grief from the loss of your relationships with men. This will not work in the long run. You actually have to feel your feelings. All of the running around from man to man is an attempt to not feel bad. To put it bluntly, you are using them like one w...
Nov 06, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 3
Hello. Yes, you have to start getting comfortable with you first. No one can make us feel worthy if we don't feel worthy already. Start contacting your true self. I call this Soul. It is the part of you that knows that you are completely worthy as you are. It is the part of you that knows you are magnificent, and capable of so much love and good. We ...
Nov 06, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 2
I'm sorry that you are scared. Birth control is not 100% effective, so there is always a chance that you could get pregnant. Talk to you gynecologist about the best ways you can protect yourself in the future. And if you need additional support, reach out to your local resources for counseling and sex education.
Nov 06, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 1
You have to start with dealing with you. Her changing her behavior is not going to take your fear of abandonment away. I know you think it will, but it won't. The answer lies in you--in your own healing. We often try to get our partners to act a certain way so we can feel secure. But you said it yourself--you have a history of a deep fear of abandonmen...
Nov 06, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 1
Yes, you must be in so much pain. Loss is devastating. Grieving is so difficult. Reach out and find a support system--family, friends, professional help (a therapist). All of this will help you make it through.
Nov 06, 2012 in the Relationship Decisions Expert Forum - 9
A therapist! :)