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What should I do!!
Oct 25, 2008 12:09AM in the Alcoholic, Living with an Community
I agree! He has to be held accountable for his own actions. The best thing you can do for him is tell him your concerns about his drinking and let him figure it out. You can't help him if he doesn't want to help himself. You've been with him for a long time, so I feel your pain and wish you the best.
what should be next step
Oct 15, 2008 07:02PM in the Alcoholic, Living with an Community
Sadly, you can't convince him he's an alcoholic. He's going to have to figure it out on his own that he has a problem, then you can hope he does something about it. The only thing that family can do is take care of themselves and perhaps go to alanon.
Where is this heading?
Oct 14, 2008 12:48AM in the Alcoholic, Living with an Community
I can't really answer your question about regrets. I left my year-long relationship less than a week ago, because I can't deal with the lies anymore about his "sobriety." I told him he'll never have me in his life if he can't get sober, but he has to do it on his own now. I hope he can and will. I miss him and want him in my life. But if he doesn't, I know I'...
I need advice and help
Oct 10, 2008 08:27PM in the Alcoholic, Living with an Community
I'd personally work on getting to the point where you DO have the financial means to leave him. That alone will build your self-confidence and leave you with an out. In the meantime, if you don't even have someone you can stay with for a while, then I would suggest walking away from the situation (go for a drive, take a walk, visit a friend or relative). It d...
Just need to get it out
Sep 16, 2008 12:17AM in the Alcoholic, Living with an Community
My original post is so old when compared to the updates that have happened since. If anyone's interested, I have an ongoing journal. Since the end of July, I've ended the relationship, he's working on staying quit, and is attending the occasional AA meeting. He's also emailing me a daily addiction journal. It's not the most promising, but I'm hopeful and stil...
How to be supportive
Sep 09, 2008 01:16PM in the Alcoholism Community
Thank you! I know you're experienced in the field, so I don't negate that and your personal experience at all, but I do know me and my strengths, what I will and will not put up with, and how far I'm willing to go, which is why the relationship ultimately ended. This has been a total learning process for me because I didn't know he drank much at all when we f...