You are in my thoughts and prayers. re the speech problem- you say it is not speech delay- give me other examples of a conversation that is more in keeping with 5 year old answering you- is it a complete sentence? not just short quips/phrases? The playdates- come one- I don't know how old you are but I didn't have a playdate- my husband never had a playdate- my children never had playdates.... we played with the kiddos in class or next door. Don't put your wife thru all that- finding him socialization.... surely you live in a neighborhood with other children? maybe not- just brainstorming- wishing you all the best