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Just a quick note to say hi!
You deserve a big bear hug!
You're in my thoughts all the time, but especially today.
Thank you for everything!
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You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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1079218 tn?1297032444
04/10
Happy Resurrection Day!
You're in my thoughts all the time, but especially today.
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1079218 tn?1297032444
03/10
You're in my thoughts all the time, but especially today. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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1079218 tn?1297032444
02/10
Just a quick note to say hi!
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1079218 tn?1297032444
01/10
You're in my thoughts all the time, but especially today.  May you be safe & well.  I'll continue to lift you up in my prayers.
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1079218 tn?1297032444
12/09
You deserve a big bear hug!  I pray that this bear hug finds you well as I shall not be logging in for awhile due to my eyes requiring a much needed rest.  Merry Christmas.
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1079218 tn?1297032444
11/09
Happy Thanksgiving!
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Avatar universal
11/09
Thanks - I will pass this on to Deb - see if she wants the extra support.  She is hanging in there - but there are tough days ahead. We are getting through this - slowly - but I think you are right - she is going to get a better more attentive, honest me - and I am working very hard to be open and honest - we are communicating better.  We've been together 14 years, it will take time to build up the trust - but we will come out of this stronger - closer.
Glad that the Mr is doing well - it is something you did together - he couldn't have gotten through it without you!
Really appriciate your support - always good to hear from you!
Happier days to come!
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11/09
I think the change will be great.  They say in early recovery - stay away from people, places and things that might trigger you.  In Florida he gets a whole different environment - plus a visit with his son!
I would still take work in the sun than the cold and snow we get here!
Canadian winters!!
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11/09
I feel a great amount of guilt and shame for what I have put my spouse through.  At least I got the "benefits" of the tram at first.  I know it will be a long journey - but we are communicating better - and that's a start.
Sounds like you and the Mr. are on the right path. - I am jealous of the trip south!!
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1079218 tn?1297032444
11/09
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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11/09
Sounds like he is really determined - that's fantastic - you must feel a bit of relief.

I hope your trick worked and his jump  off won't be so bad.  Stay strong - you both may have a rough week or so - but it will all be worth it in the end.
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11/09
It is amazing how similar we all are in our struggle to rid our bodies of this evil drug.  All different walks of life - pulled together in order to survive.
I am not sure if the comparison to your husband is good or bad :)  If you are refering to my good looks, charismic charm, incredible sense of humour and humility - then I can see why the comparison!
I wish I was as close to jumping off as he is.  I probably will taper for another few weeks.
I also wish my partner was as supportive as you are - my partner tries - but hasn't gone the extra mile you have to understand this awful addiction.  
Mr. DeeTram is a lucky guy!
I will be watching for your posts to see how he is doing.
take care
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10/09
Really - I think you are just putting off the inevitable.  I personally am up to taking more than 15 50mg tabs per day plus about 4 tabs of Percocet.  If he know he needs to quit he probably should just quit (talk to your DR).  I am deciding to try to just quit. Stopped yesterday.  I took a lot of Nyquil to get through the night.  Today is just busy fighting my mind.  If you give the last 100 pils to him he will burn through them quickly.
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10/09
I just came across this site with all of these listing about ultram problemsI knew I had a problem - need to quit - don't know how- any adivce is welcome
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10/09
It is going to take a lot of work to repair the damage I have done in my relationship - we are just starting.  I now have to be consistent and prove that the person I was on the drugs is not the person I am.  It will take a while to build up the trust - my partner is going to al-anon and I am going to AA - I tried NA - but was more comfortable with the other.  
When I was in denial  - nothing anyone said would have mattered - my partner could have left - whatever.  It wasn't until I was miserable enough that I wanted to fight for my life.  I do wish my parnter would have gotten some support.  To suffer alone - embarassed by me.  Al-anon has given the tools, the support and friendship needed for her to heal and take care of her needs - which had been ignored for years.
Hang in there
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10/09
Hi there - I am now just starting to deal with the effects my addiction has had on my partner and the people I love.  When you are addicted - it is all about you and your drugs - it is a very selfish thing.  I would feel guilty at times - but the denial is so strong. .
Sadly - you cannot do anything - you have to take care of yourself - go back to al-anon - alcohol/drugs - only the substance is different - focus on the similarities - you will gain support and strength there - like we have found here - support from those going through the same thing.  Taking care of yourself is the only way you will have the strength to be there for your husband when he starts to battle his addictions.  Feel free to contact me if you have any questions or need to vent!
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