I didn't think this went through. I was submitting it and our computer froze. I was going to write another note as I had exceeded the character limit.
Have been struggling a bit but have put in an official complaint to try and access some support and to get closure on some issues.
How are you doing? How is your relationship going?
The disorder is so messed up that some comments are perceived as empathetic while others seem threatening. I think it's the individual's responsibility to work on whatever material that evokes from them though. I think that underlying any differences of opinion (probably based on different life experiences) was our respect for each other and our willingness to talk things through. I don't think that I was offended by your comments I think that I was just selfishly hurt for me. bpd can be extremely debilitating and represent a lot of losses and come with bias and an overwhelming stigma. I think that it's inevitiable that going through life some things are going to trigger or hurt us more. When you strive to be normal it is hard to hear people talk about how different you are.