Public places can be double tough because not only are you dealing with the situation, you have lots of people watching. I don't really avoid anywhere but I give the low down before we get there (no surprises), "it may be loud, there will be lots of kids," and that is the time to say---- if you feel yourself getting upset, then take 5 deep breaths or ask for gum, etc. I also watch my son like a hawk. If he gets that look in his eye that tells me it may go bad--- we either wrap it up and leave or modify the plan or I ask him to jump in place or something like that. Your son sounds bright, so he will learn his cues for when he needs some extra help too. We talk at night after bath time at a time completely unrelated to the event. I ask simple questions only. Bye
sorry, I ran out of room. As he gets older, the key is for HIM to moniter himself and start doing the things that will make him feel better. If he is hitting, etc.---- my ot gives a pillow to kids to hit. Give him safe outlets for these emotions and the goal is for him to have fewer and fewer outbursts. As far as your daughter, I'd sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that his brain is wired a little differently and he is trying the best he can and as a family, we have to help him. My 4 year old just occupies himself when my son has a meltdown. He seems to know that his brother is having an issue and mom needs to help him. Your daughter is older, so she may understand even better. We haven't told my sensory son yet about his delay. Good luck--- and I'm happy to help
I know what you are talking about--- those are the worst moments. In public, the dynamics are such that things can escalate more easily. You can't reason when they are upset like that--- so taking him to the car was smart. I try to buckle my son up anyway as that tight feeling actually soothes him(he fights me). I have gum ready and try to get him to take deep breaths. Usually the storm has to pass a little and then he'll try these things. Then LATER--- talk to him. How does he feel about it? Probably bad, and then work on strategies with him to head it off next time. And with the thermomenter--- YOU watch for the signs ahead of time and start doing the things that calm his system before he blows. I'll write more . . .
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