You have all the classic examples of ADHD. Its a pretty good chance that with the breakup of your family, treatment for you was ignored. Which was too bad because ADHD by itself will cause anxiety and depression. 30 to 40% of people with ADHD have anxiety disorders. And, I can certainly understand the depression. You had just reasons to be. I don't seem much evidence of being bipolar. By the way, for untreated ADHD, the odds of self-medicating are much higher then a person who was treated with meds.
Anyway, I have 5 very good links for you. The first three deal with adult ADHD and include a self test. The last 2 deal with anxiety and ADHD.
If you do have ADHD, the last thing that you want the doc to do is to only treat the anxiety. That will not be treating the what could be the major cause of the problem. So definitely take you time to read these. They will, I think, give you enough info to help the doc help you. If you have any questions about what you read, please post. And certainly please post after the doctors visit and let me know how things went. Good luck!
The links are:
Is it adult ADHD?
an adult adhd test
why adult ADHD is misdiagnosed.
diagnosing related conditions
ADHD and anxiety.
This information helped TREMENDOUSLY... it was a breath of fresh air. I am going to take this info to the doctor and hopefully it will help with my diagnosis.
Thanks, I thought you might find it helpful. Let me know how things go.