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my son is 5 years old. i was addicted to crack while pregnant and feel very ashamed and alot of guilt. ive noticed alot of change in him in the last 3 weeks. he has never had any symptoms of a crack baby and is very smart for his age with some things. but recently his behavior has almost got out of control and i almost cant handle him. i feel bad for spanking him cause i blame myself. hes started screaming and hitting and is defiant. i plan on getting him into the dr. but never wanted to put him on meds but feel now like i have no choice . im very stressed out alot because of his behavior and sometimes feel at a loss. he goes non stop from the time he wakes up til he goes to bed. one min he is so lovable, the next a holy terror. do u think he is ADHD?
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189897 tn?1441126518
  The fact he goes non stop would be a sign of ADHD (and also a crack baby).
The fact that he is very smart would also indicate that he has learned how to manipulate you.  Don't spank him.  It won't work and only teaches him to hit other people when he is mad.  Do obtain a copy of Lynn Clarks' book SOS: Help for Parents.   I think it will help.  Check the child behavior forum, there are a lot of parents having troubles with their 4/5 year olds and the advice given to them will also help you.
   I definitely would get him into a doctor.  Not to get him on meds but to find out what is going on.  If he has ADHD, books like, "The ADD/ ADhD Answer book." , by Susan Ashley are extremely helpful.  You need to know what is going on, so you can find out how to deal with it.  So get him into the doctor.  

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Okay, I have another suggestion for you to look into as well.  Sensory integration disorder.  My son has this delay and it can look an awful lot like adhd.  They are managed differently and no medication helps sensory.  Google sensory integration disorder and see what you think.  You can never have too much information regarding what might be going on with your child.  Sandman also gives good advice on Sos for parents and the ADHD answer book.  Read all you can to figure this out and seek professional advice as well.

Congrats for kicking the addiction.  Don't beat yourself up for the past.  We all make mistakes.  Your son loves and needs you.  good luck
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