Hi, answered your post about your daughter and figured I should do the same for you.
My first thought is that you certainly have some of the symptoms of ADHD or ADD. And, of course, if you have it (or your husband) - it dramatically increases the chances that your daughter could also have it. You are probably fairly intelligent or it would have/should have been picked up in school. Although girls, especially girls with ADD, don't get noticed as easily as all of those bouncy boys.
It sounds like you have learned to compensate fairly well. However, Ashley (in the book I recommended that you get for your daughter) states that 10 to 30% of children with ADHD are depressed. Frankly, I think that in undiagnosed adults it is much higher. Check out this link - http://www.ncpamd.com/adultadd.htm and this - http://www.ncpamd.com/ADDComorbidity.htm
I honestly don't know what you can do without health insurance. I do think that you can learn more about ADHD and how to deal with it. The two sites I listed above have numerous other references that look like they could help you. There is also a kind of crazy, wonderful site for adults with ADD called - http://jeffsaddmind.com/for-first-time-visitors
It really worth checking out. Perhaps have your husband watch the video by the young lady with ADD (on the above site). It makes a pretty good case for it existing and what it can do to you.
Anyway, hope some of this helps. Information is key. I've got other very inclusive sites if you need more info. Best wishes.
hi there I'm Tim and me and my doughter suffer from ADHD I know that if a person has ADHD they don't know that they are it took yrs of me telling myself that there is nothing wrong but my wife was the one that noticed that I should seek help I diden think anything was wrong that's becouse you will not know but you will have bad depetion and it can even couse you to get to the point where you think your life is falling apart right befor yr eyes but there are many things that come with having ADHD that's just one of the signs but my doughter and I we take vivance for ADHD but the only down fall when you take ADHD meds alot of times they will keep you from sleeping I mean you will not even be sleepy at all you have to have night meds to help you sleep as well somtimes it takes trying different meds becouse I had a problem being sleep in the morning but also as time gos on with age there will be times where yr Dr will have to change you meds becoue