Not sure what is wrong with 6 year old son

[reallyneedsomeadvice]

I am so frustrated that this is literally my last resort until i get my son in to see a counselor in March. My  son is 6 and he has cried a lot since he was born. His dad and I were never married and haven't been together since he was an infant. The older my son gets the worse that his behavioral and emotional issues are becoming. I have 2 younger children as well, they have no behavioral or emotional problems. Here is the run down, He cries over everything, lays down on the ground and scoots around kicking and screamig saying that I am hurting him or whoever is around. He tells stories that aren't true and has actually got me in trouble by telling his dad that I hit him on the side when in all reality his 2 year old brother pinched him. He screams in his little sisters face, laughs when I am trying to discipline him or put him in time out. He will throw himself down on the ground and start screaming saying he is physically hurt when there is really nothing wrong with him. He tells me I am mean when I try to put him in time out for not listening to me. He has hit his siblings, cries sometimes for an hour at a time. He hates school ( 1st grade) Tells me that he feels mixed up in his head. He cried at my Grandmothers house the whole time we were there for no apparent reason, cried when we got home over a card game that he ended up winning. I am so physically and emotionally drained at this point. He talks bad about himself, says that nobody loves him. I tell him I love him everyday, I try to do special things with just me and him but it never seems like it is good enough. He plays sports but they don't hold his interest for long. His dad has put a lot of stuff in his head on weekend visits. He has no rules there because he is only there for 2 days and then comes back home where I have to have rules. When I implement a rule at home he tells me he wants his dad and then screams and cries. There is so much going on with my son I have no idea where to begin. I have made him an appointment to see a counselor but they can't get him in until Mid March and that seems so long away. I have no idea what is wrong but it is making me feel like a bad parent even though I know I'm not. So stressed out. Please help!

[benjimom]

He might be depressed.   I would take him to the counselor and see what he/she thinks.  It's terribe for someone to trash another parent, very confusing for the child.  It's not easy being a single parent.

[dollyn]

I am so sorry that you and your family are going threw this.
Will  your son sit and talk to you about how he feels.
your son dad and his wife really don't understand what they are doing to this little boy and some body needs to put a stop to it.Who does he think he is helping by acting like a child himself.

I would try talking to the father with another person there with you who has an open mind and deal with all the things that are going on with your son.

no drug is going to help this,so if they try and put him on one please don't let them do this to him. the side effects are not worth it.
you should also go and get some help you so you can deal with all this.

[reallyneedsomeadvice]

He doesn't really get in trouble at school. He has had some difficulties learning how to read but is making a lot of improvement. I have also ask that he be allowed to talk to the school guidance counselor if he wants to. I just don't know what causes him to be so unhappy. I know part of it is that he is torn between me and his dad. His dad has trashed talked me a lot in front of my son so I feel like that he believes what his dad says even though it isn't true. His dad is married to someone else and that has caused a lot of problems because she has actually allowed my son to call her mommy and I had to call them and tell them that I didn't appreciate it and not to let him call her mommy. I feel like they have really confused my son and I don't know how to get him straightened out. It is really heartbreaking.

[allmymarbles]

Something is wrong, but this does not sound like ADD. Yes, you need professional help. Mostly because your son is so unhappy.

[benjimom]

SOunds like he is really down.  I think it's good you are getting him to see a counselor and yes, he has been thru a lot as well as yourself. I hope you have a good support system too.  Sometimes when you are having kid issues, it's easy to feel all alone, like you are the only one to ever have had issues, etc. and you are so drained by the child's issues, behaviors, etc.  

It owuld be best if the dad would try ot play it neutral, no bad talking the other parent, etc, but maybe in a perfect world.  

Sounds like the transition from the dad's house to your house is difficult for him.  

How are thing at school, do they have behavior issues with him??