Nothing works

[msbaker]

My husband and I have a seven year old daugher, who is very smart-educationally.  She talks all the time and I mean all the time.  She misbehaves at school, on the bus, and at home.  She gets straight A's but all her teachers and bus drivers are calling me asking how to make her be quiet as well as how to make her behave.  I explained to them that my husband and I unfortunately have not found any discipline that works for her behavior or to shut her mouth.  We have tried whole heartedly time-out, taking away tv, video games, movies, toys, books, spanking, soap in the mouth, taking everything away and making her sit in her room on her bed and do nothing for a week except coming out for dinner, bath etc.  We have her time-out chair in the laundry room at the opposite end of the house and nothing is in that room that she can mess with.  PLEASE< PLEASE HELP!!!  She is endangering herself and others while on the bus because her behavior is distracting the bus driver, and she is disrupting class by trying to do the teacher's job.  Any help would be great.  She is seven and school is getting ready to start sending her to detention + kick her off the bus, she gets straight A's but they will hold her back if we can't get the behavior under control.

[geekchic9]

What's her diet like?

[msbaker]

She eats very healthy most of the time, she hardly ever drinks kool-aid or pop, she mostly drinks water and sometimes milk.  She is allowed to have sweets once every great while, but not very often.  She is also in gymnastics, she stays fit and petite, plus she is tall and skinny.

[JoJo437]

If I may be so bold as to suggest an alternative theory.

The fact that your daughter is a straight A student creates somewhat of a paradox inasmuch as ADD/ADHD affected children are more often associated with underachievment as opposed to the opposite.

Have you ever had your daugthers IQ tested to determine her intelligence? Often times children who fall within a "genius" classification will have a history of extreme misbehavior; not because she has a disorder, per se, but quite frankly because she is a mental giant among mental midgets.

Think of it this way: If you were 7 years old with the intelligence that you have today as an adult (or even greater than a normal adult), but at the same time manifested a maturity level of a normal seven year old girl, and you were being sent to a place everyday where you were being required to engage in activities of a completely childish nature (ABC's-Where's Waldo-Sesame Street Nonsense); How would you act? Simply put, how would you act if you were required to return to pre-school today, keeping in mind that you maturity level is still that of a child! See my point!

Are either you or her father particulary bright?-Is there a history of a person with an abnormally high IQ on either side of her fence. Check it out-the problem may be enviornmental, not physiological!

[JoJo437]

Another thought just occurred;

Try giving her academic materials clearly beyond a typical 7 year old's capacity. Do not, however, present her with problems so far beyond her that she has no chance of progress (example: you cannot handle trig before learning how to add and subtract, no matter how smart you are, unless you are a savant!)

I would suggest problem solving exercises like the ones that you would find in a childrens section of an adult book store (Barnes & Noble). Better yet, see if you can find a book on testing your childs IQ at Barnes & Noble--See how she does!!!!!!!!!

Good Luck