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[clavvis]

Hello,
I have a 7 years old and 7 months boys who hols a ADHD diagonosis and has been getting a resouse teacher break during the school day, arond 20 minuts a day. So far has been helpful, he is happy and so is his teacher, he is not on medication. But now I we are dealing witha differente resourse teacher, who used to be his infant teacher and with whom he has not only bad history but there is a clash. She is extremelly negative, he is very possitive on the other hand and loves his present school and so, he says, well she is not so bad, gives out a bit, nothing is in off for her, but is ok. I have to admit, I feel like going to school and have a real chat with her. But how?, how can I deal with this lady?. Her job is to encourage and support my boy, but her persona is so negative, any ideas in how deal with this?
Thanks in advance.

[clavvis]

Hello Sandman2,

Just wanted to say thanks for the advise I actually did not talk to her. But talked first to my boy, sometimes he seems to mature, things are working very well for them both, she seems to be really good to him now. So. Just letting you know the good news, thanks for your time and adivse.

[Sandman2]

   Hoping to hear one too.  Best wishes!

[clavvis]

Thanks for your answer, I was looking for some perspective on the situation and the fact that you understand the teacher's roll is really helpful. Will follow your adivice and see how it goes from there. At least he has only 20 mins a day with this lady and you are right, maybe she will change attitude as he actually holds a diagnosis. Again thanks. Hope to be writing a message with good news very soon.

[Sandman2]

   Hummm,  I am not sure of the system over there.  Here a child would have what's called an IEP which would state how a teacher would work with the child.  That can be very helpful for many things, but I doubt that it would control a teachers attitude.
   Its very possible that when she had him, he was not diagnosed and she thought that he was just acting out.  I know as a teacher, it makes a huge difference to me when I discover that a child has something like ADHD, and is just not being a pain.  
   My suggestion is that you work with her by being very positive!  Ask her what you can do at home to help her or your son.  Ask her if there is anything you can do to help the class as a whole.  If you can get the time - volunteer at the school.
   Many times, when a teacher knows that the parent is trying to help, they will spend more time with the child and be more aware of what they are saying.
   You can also try to help your son understand that the teacher is not really being negative about him - that's just the way she is. But I bet he has already figured that out.
Hope this helps!  Best wishes.