asking for prayers...

[LIZZIE LOU]

i'm posting here because most of the "old timers" who know me are here.

my son, davis, has been clean from crack for 4 years...alcohol almost 2 years (this was his substitute addiction).  six months ago...he found out his g/f of two years was pregnant.  they married and have been ecstatic, waiting on their daughter.  davis had started back to college...has kept a 4.0...and working two jobs.  both families have been helping them financially since they are young, expecting, and davis is going to school.

last night...his addiction won out.  his addiction told him that he was scared...that he had too much on him...that he needed something different in his life other than school, work, and coming home and doing nothing...he's 22.  he decided that he wanted to drink...and he did.  he went to a friends house and didnt come home til 4:00 this morning...meaning that he drove home drunk.

please keep davis in your thoughts and in your prayers.  he has everything in the world going for him right now, but yet he caved.  pray that he has the strength and determination to not self destruct.

if any of you have encouraging words or wisdom that you can give to him...i will GLADLY accept them in a pm and foward them to him.

thank you so much for listening...i am so worried and scared.

kim  (4 weeks til baby girl madison arrives)

[ZJILLIAN]

I am so sorry to hear about your son. I really can't stop thinking about him. You know, I think in some way he is telling you that he can't handle the load. He is only 22 years old, very very young man for so much stress and responsibility. Tell him that you understand it is too much to expect from him. He IS doing too much. Something has to give in that situation. It sounds like he has very high standards for himself and performs at the highest level. Can something be eliminated from his load (less school time? ).

The addiction is always going to be there as a vulnerability and when the stress is just too much he must learn to see that the stressors need to be changed rather than just make everything more tolerable with alcohol or drugs. I think he really needs help in understanding how very difficult his situation is and that he must change somethings to ease the stress.

It is a kind of all or nothing thinking he is in. Either he is superman and an alcoholic; he needs to see the middle ground.

You are in my thoughts.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Kim, you can count on much prayers for Davis from me. I am sure you will continue to be a strong support and influence to him & his wife. Let them know we are keeping the whole family in our prayers.