No, not all parents are mean. Some few are, you drew the bad card, I'm sorry.
Do you have another relative to whom to go, not your mom and not your dad?
I am so sorry, not all parents are like this but many are and children very often have to endure...ou are 17 I suggest that you make your plans and leave when you can , of course you can call CPS to see if there is somewhere to go, then at 18 go to a battered womans shelter.., I think that your Dad would be able to take you if he applies to a court and I suggest you speak to him..Chin Up life has a way of changing for the better ..
Thats good one has to get tough and think and make positive plans and not \let the abuser win...you have life ahead, are you doing well at school, going on to College?
Yes, I will be heading to college.
well thats great will you be living at the college or nearby , you have so much ahead, so just endure if you cannot get away. Life is going to get better...
Thank you for the encouragement. And yes, I will be staying near campus in my own apartment. That's kind of what I'm saving money for now..
I believe that at age 16 a child can choose which parent he will live with, at least in some states.
Yeah, here it's age 14, but my mom has full custody. So that means I have to go to court and get her to sign things and have a judge decide if she refuses. It's complete crap, honestly.
well chin up ...avoid her when you can, and think of a great future ahead .keep saving its a good thing .connect up with Dad if things get bad .....
yes ..'When the going gets tough the tough get going"
How old is your brother? And how is she to him?
My brother is actually my twin, haha. But we look nothing alike. And she likes him... Unless I leave, then she tries to start fights with him because she doesn't have me around to do that to anymore.
I was just wondering when he would be able to leave also.
I am so sorry you are going through this. You could get emancipated if it is as bad as you say, but it sounds like you want to have some kind of parent in place. I am very sorry that yours are not doing the job.
I've heard a few people say that Dr. Laura's book "Bad Childhood, Good Life" was useful, don't know personally but probably if it is not, there are other good books on the topic. You are on the verge of being out there at the start of your new life, see if you can suck it up for just a little longer.
This site is a good one for understanding responses, and that might help some.
If you can't go to another relative and If I was you I would make a note of everything that happened. Write down time, dates, places ect. That is of course if you remember it all. Take it to a school counsellor or your head of year or even your form teacher and tell them what has happened.
Wow, I'm really impressed with you for doing so well in school, and not acting out with drugs or alcohol because of what's been happening to you at home. You are going to have a fine life when you get on your own. You should be so proud of yourself honey.
I'm so sorry that you were raped. Have you talked to your therapist about what's happening at home? I also think that you should talk to your guidance counselor about what's happening at home, and see what advice they give to you. The more adults that you can open up to right now, about what's been happening with your mother the better. Maybe they can help you to get to your dads place. Have you talked to your dad about what's happening, do you visit with him? Do you stay overnight with him? When do you turn 18? Are you in grade 12? You only have another 6 months until you;re all done. Hang Tough, my dear. You're not alone, so make some friends here, that you can open up to and share your feelings.
Emancipation takes so long to actually do. :(
I do keep a journal and show my counselor when she comes to see me.
Thank you so much. I try hard.. I talk to my counselor every time she comes over about the stuff that goes on here. She's trying to get me to move in with my dad. Now my dad isn't a good guy either, but he is way easier to deal with than my mother. I guess they both have their ups and downs. I visit my dad and I've told him. He said he will try to get papers for me to live with him, but he is very unreliable so... Who knows if he will. I stay with my dad on weekends sometimes. It's not consistent but I do get to see and stay the night there. I turn 18 on August 2nd this year. I can't wait. I am a junior, grade 11. But I've done so well in school that I am able to graduate early senior year in the winter. I'm trying to hang in there. Thank you.
Well, hun, we don't get to choose our parents but we sure get to choose what path our lives take. Keep your grades high for scholarships and do ACT tests as best you can as many times as you can to get more money. Even a little helps. Then, you go out into the world and shine bright! Keep positive people around you and be everything you want to be. I try to look at bad things that have happened as a learning experience and know that I will help someone along the way because I really do understand. You will do the same many times over. I am so sorry about the rape but what I know for sure is it was NOT and NEVER your fault. I know it hurts but the only way to fight back is to have the greatest life possible. You win and he does not! Not all parents are this way and you will have they chance (if you want) to be the opposite to your own children. I can't wait for college to get here for you! You are strong and a survivor and I have no doubt you will conquer the world! Never let anyone tell you different. In the end you have one person (two if you are religous) to count on and that is yourself and God above. I wish you the very best!
It sounds to me like you should ask the police if they are going to physically remove you from your dad's house if you have chosen to be there because of your mother's abuse (before court); it couldn't hurt knowing that.
Also, I also suggest you definitely contact CPS and tell them that you are in an abusive situation and you will get a restraining order from your mom if necessary; in order to be placed somewhere where you can go to school and work.
Maybe you can get some assistance from your therapist to motivate your Dad to take you in for the year or until you're 18 at least. The thing is, that he might be too embarrassed not to say "yes" (first find out whether the police can remove you). If the therapist assures him that this is temporary, and the police will not get involved , he may budge.
You're in my prayers young lady. Keep up the great work~.
Thank you and I will try my best to keep my head up.