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3621615 tn?1347728713

Abusive Parents?

Hello, my name is Stephanie. I am now seventeen years old. I don't like my home life. At all. My parents are divorced and I live with my mother. My mother is a mean and cruel woman. I don't understand what I've done to make her not like me so much. She's hated me since I was a child, she even tells me. She's hit, beat, punched, scratched, shoved, kicked, and spit on me before. I'm so mental scarred from it now. The beatings aren't often anymore, because I've threatened to kill her. Instead now, she knows I won't fight back so she fights with me, picks on me, calls me names, shoves me, and tries to start fights with me. She's so mean to me. She likes to say that me getting raped was all my fault... And that really hurts my feelings. She will try anything to hurt me in some way. I can stand there and cry and she will just look at me with no emotion. I ask for a hug and she says get away from me. I just don't get it. I'm doing good in school, I'm not in trouble with the law, I don't drink, do drugs, or smoke, I obey the rules, I'm off medication and trying to do well in therapy... What am I doing wrong? She sees no difference in me and that makes me feel worthless and no good :(
Now, I really want to live with my father but he's not really great either. She has full custody of my brother and I. How can I convince her to let me go live with him? What should I do? I hate it here and I can't really take anymore bullcrap. I feel like I'm going to snap and just go crazy. Are all parents mean? Are all parents like this? :'( How can I get her to care about me? How can I leave?
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3621615 tn?1347728713
Emancipation takes so long to actually do. :(
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3060903 tn?1398565123
Wow, I'm really impressed with you for doing so well in school, and not acting out with drugs or alcohol because of what's been happening to you at home.  You are going to have a fine life when you get on your own. You should be so proud of yourself honey.

I'm so sorry that you were raped. Have you talked to your therapist about what's happening at home? I also think that you should talk to your guidance counselor about what's happening at home, and see what advice they give to you. The more adults that you can open up to right now, about what's been happening with your mother the better. Maybe they can help you to get to your dads place. Have you talked to your dad about what's happening, do you visit with him? Do you stay overnight with him? When do you turn 18? Are you in grade 12? You only have another 6 months until you;re all done. Hang Tough, my dear. You're not alone, so make some friends here, that you can open up to and share your feelings.
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If you can't go to another relative and If I was you I would make a note of everything that happened. Write down time, dates, places ect. That is of course if you remember it all. Take it to a school counsellor or your head of year or even your form teacher and tell them what has happened.
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134578 tn?1693250592
I was just wondering when he would be able to leave also.

I am so sorry you are going through this.  You could get emancipated if it is as bad as you say, but it sounds like you want to have some kind of parent in place.  I am very sorry that yours are not doing the job.

I've heard a few people say that Dr. Laura's book "Bad Childhood, Good Life" was useful, don't know personally but probably if it is not, there are other good books on the topic.  You are on the verge of being out there at the start of your new life, see if you can suck it up for just a little longer.

This site is a good one for understanding responses, and that might help some.
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3621615 tn?1347728713
:)
My brother is actually my twin, haha. But we look nothing alike. And she likes him... Unless I leave, then she tries to start fights with him because she doesn't have me around to do that to anymore.
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134578 tn?1693250592
How old is your brother?  And how is she to him?
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