I think you were young and even though it felt good, that you didn't know any better. Things just led to another after the initial few moments.
Why do you want to get it off your chest now? Are you thinking more with what happened back then?
Are you male or female as I couldn't gauge that from your post?
There are a lot of inconsistencies in your post, delver. A lot.
Business and accounting? Hm. Interesting. You don't hear that very often.
"We moved a few years later and I forgot about it completely. For years after I was intrigued over what happened".
Interesting that two doctors (who both work late, btw) would be ok with having a 12 year old boy babysit their child overnights. Hmm. Unusual.
I'm not really sure what to tell you. If you're not traumatized, enjoyed it and have no hard feelings then I guess you can't really call it abuse. Since it was gentle and not forced on you (would stop when you didn't want it etc.) I guess it wasn't really a traumatizing thing. You where pretty young but maybe it just counts as exploring? I'm not sure. But its how you feel about it that counts.
It is ok to have enjoyed it at the time - that doesn't make you weird, only human. It is more common for males than females to enjoy being sexually abused since men tend to be aroused by sight and touch where as women tend to be more aroused by smell and fantasy fulfillment. Lot's of children do "sex play" or experimenting however even if you FELT at the time it was more of a friends with benefits situation, it is good that now you realize that true child experimentation is usually done with other children no more than 2-3 years age difference. These older boys were taking advantage of you and if the 18 was caught should have been charged! You are certainly not alone in the aspect that it felt good at the time, at that age it also doesn't determine whether you will be LGBTQ. Talk to other men about it if need be but not anyone under 18. It is good you are not assuming that it would be ok for you to repeat with someone younger as for they would be a different person and most likely would feel ABUSED. You should talk to a therapist about your feelings towards the emotional side ie these young men broke your trust and used you! But, if you can enjoy a normal enjoyable sex life now then be happy your experiences weren't worse, you made it through, you survived, you learned from it and you can and probably will one day help another young adult deal with his mixed feelings regarding his similar feelings.
I had similar experience. I am a female, I was three at that time and it was happening with a girl, the same age. She initiated it. As it was in our kindergarten, my parents found out. They asked me whether something really happened and as a child I only understood they were angry and scared and that I should not have done this. I became scared of intimacy of any form, also had a problem determining my sexuality later on. When I was around 14 all my friends were entering relationships etc, discovering what they like but in my mind it was always something bad, something I was scared of, so I didn’t even talk about it with anyone. At some point I started realising that I fancy females and it scared me completely and caused depression and me backing out of the society. I started accepting it when I was 19, I changed the places where I was living, people around me were different and for the first time I was able to slowly talk about it. I am 21 right now, without going into details I’ll just say my reactions to sexual situations are still not “normal” and I still think there’s a long way to go for me but at least I understand it all more.
Like the other post said before me, I think you were young and you didn’t know better. Sometimes people forget that the body has a mind of its own, so when your body thinks something feels good, your mind can say otherwise. You know it’s bad but at the same time it feels good. It all can be confusing but all you need to know it that you think for yourself, not your body, penis, vagina, or any other sensitiv part of your body. But you were young and you didn’t know any better, but hopefully as you got older you knew it wasn’t right to do it to others children.
You were normal for feeling pleasure,you are normal for feelling confused,it is not a big deal,it happens to many children but they store in in their minds and it comes out once in a long time,my suggestion is do not about it,or delve in to it too much ,nothing positive can come from it
Just know that people responding care about you,including my self ,you are a sincere ,intellegent and full of emotions
I have been on both sides of this scenario when I was a pre-teen/Teen. Sexual exploration is very normal at that age. I think the biggest majority of people have experienced some form of this as a child/Pre-teen or teenager. I have to say I rather enjoyed my experiences and I believe myself to be very normal.
Finally, someone who has gone through the same! I've always been ashamed and embarrassed for what I had gone through but I feel less alone now that you have opened up about the same experience. When I was very young in elementary school, I was friends with these two older girls. I'd say they were like 5 or so years older than me. They would come over my house and put me in a closet and undress me and I enjoyed it. I always felt sick and disgusting for the fact that I enjoyed it but thank you so much for opening up.
I know it's been over a year but I do understand what you're talking about this sorta thing happened between me and this girl I used to know (I'm a girl as well) but we would do those same things and I liked it so I continued doing it and no one ever found out and I don't think it's wrong either I did it because I wanted to
When I was eight years old I had three cousins that at different times used to molest me and I actually liked it and found it pleasurable as well so I’m glad I’m not alone because I always feel extremely guilty and shame for that so I’m glad to see that I’m not alone
Hi honey...please don't feel badly by what anyone has said to you. When you are a child and don't know any better, it's still inappropriate behavior because someone is taking advantage of you who was old enough to know better. I am glad you were not hurt. You were obviously touched gently and those feelings are real, it's a physical response and you are not to blame for enjoying how it felt. Once that feeling is turned on it doesn't turn off which is why you became a victim again. You liked the special attention, and it felt good. That was NOT your fault. Your body responded. Any fault lies with the older people who engaged in the activity with you because they knew better, on the other hand, it had probably been done to them as well when they were younger. I am sorry people seem to judge you.
As I was scrolling through the comments, I was surprised to not see someone speak my own thoughts on this. It isn't surprising that you liked your initial experience, due to the person being gentle with you and stopping or not doing anything when you didn't want to. That takes away the trauma factor, but doesn't make it not abuse. The person was old enough to know what they were doing was not what they should have been doing, and told and did what they needed to you in order to get what they wanted from you with minimal risk of being caught.. By the second person, you had the idea in your head that it was a fun thing to do.. But the 18 year old should have most definitely known better. In short, you were taken as advantage of, and the first person also used manipulation to make you feel safe and not get caught.
You WERE abused. The enjoyment ofr pleasure you may have felt is irrelevant. The idea that your parents would allow a sleep over with an unrelated 18 year old unsupervised is shocking to me. I m sorry to say that these circumstances make it clear you were grossly let down by your parents who chose career over parenting. Particularly now that you have opened up the subject, I suggest you immediately consult with a professional who specializes in working with adults who experienced childhood sexual abuse. As you mature, possibly marry and have children I can nearly guarantee this will raise itself again if not addressed now.
I had a very similar experience that started around 5 but with my neighboors, who were a couple with three older daughters. They even spoke with my parents about adopting me. I distinctly remember getting a bath from the husband and him dismissing my sister so he could touch me. I remember loving him and feelings of sexual desire as well as orgasms when he was touching me. This went on like a relationship with the couple and a few times with the sisters as well until I was 10. I would have loved having been adopted by them. They were very welcome and wanted sexual experiences.
Hi Delver, I hope this message can reach you even it is 2018 already hahaha. I'm Clyde and had also gone through the same experience when I was 8. But I guess it affects us both differently. Where I find it pleasurable but know later in life that I was abused. Well, happily, both of us did the same thing by not doing it to others. But I am more drawn to older guys not the younger ones. But still I need to get some help. Have a great life and let us help these children who is being abuse now. Sorry for my english .