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Mom doesn't accept the marriage proposal

I'm 25 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I have a older sister who is not yet married and wants to be. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, has a good job and treats me great. My father passed away when I was 12 therefore all I have is my mom and sister. The other day my boyfriend went to my mother and asked to marry me, and she said NO. She said I have to wait for my sister to get married first because thats what a good sister does. She  belittled him and is now screaming at me telling me I'm tearing the family apart and I'm so selfish. She doesn't want me to get married and told me she doesnt want to see my ring and won't come to the wedding. She calls me names and is extremely emotionally abusive. I need advice because I don't know how to deal with this and I can't sleep at night. help!
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757137 tn?1347196453
Don't discuss your future husband with her and ignore her if she brings the subject up. Meet her abuse with silence. This the best you can do quiet things down.

Her talk of your sister having to marry first is nonsense. She is using that as an excuse to keep you from leaving home - and her. She has lost a husband and now sees herself as losing a daughter. Unless she has a history of being abusive, she will calm down in time. Just don't add fuel to her fire. And go ahead with your wedding plans.
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13167 tn?1327194124
This is a choice you're going to have to make.  Is your mother more important to you,  or is your boyfriend?  You could be 85 years old and single waiting for your older sister to get married.  

I can't understand the concept that siblings have to marry in order.  That puts tremendous pressure on your sister.  How does she feel about this?
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535822 tn?1443976780
You have to have a talk with her and tell her that her behavior is not good and you are going to marry your bf ...put your foot down ,you are 25 years old its time to make a stand. If she still continues I suggest you move out you will be doing so when you marry anyway, so be firm do not take any abuse .by the way Congratulations its good to hear couples are still getting married .
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