My mom is the same but alot worse. I really don't want to put my life story down but I will talk to u by notes. IV been there and now im free of it. Note me im also a student of psychology and a stay at home mom of 6. If you want to talk im here.
Sounds like my mom, she'll drive you nuts. Try to tell her to stop, she doesn't quit the negativity. Irritating. So, if I talk to her, I make it quick, don't bother to react or respond to her silliness, and it's better for me. Try not to let her irritate you. Maybe she just likes to control everything, if you don't care, then she won't have much fun will she. She probably will find somebody else who she can irritate. Attention getters, don't you think? Don't let her crap ruin your day!!! Can't change nobody but yourself!!
Alleycat, this is your choice in life. This is your choice. You and I are the same age.
You can decide to put all your energy into your children, or your mother.
It's up to you.
I guess cause it makes her madder. I guess she has me worring about her feels too much.
So let her, but stick to you guns anyway. She will know you are lying, but what can she do about it?
I have tried the so call little white lies...she checks up on me.
She is too old to change, but you are not. However, rather than put the kibbosh on your relationship (which I doubt that either of you wants), why not make up convenient excuses as to why you can't go on such and such trip? Even if she is not taken in, she can't do much about it. Honesty is not always the best policy.
Why do I feel so guilty? I would not feel so guilty if she was not 76. Like I said who is going to really take care of her. I agree with you and I really feel like that...not going around her. I guess she has programmed me all my life. I will be 53 in June. I need to break this pattern.
Since you have aunts who are fit enough to travel to Las Vegas, let them step in. I think you should take her at her word, and "don't come back anymore".