I strongly suggest you extract yourself from that relationship as soon as possible. At best, she is unwilling to acknowledge what she is doing, or she is mentally ill. At worst, she knows full well what she is doing and she is gaslighting you - making you doubt experiences that you KNOW you had. She clearly has something to gain by staying with you, though it's impossible to say what her motivation for doing so may be.
Worst of all, she is teaching your daughter that you are not worthy of respect, and that it is OK to openly berate you.
I would start by talking with both a counselor and a lawyer. You need a counselor so that you can discuss what's happening in your relationship without being told that it's not happening, or that it's not hurting you. This will help with your confidence, and to trust that your perception of the situation is REAL and that you are legitimately being abused. At the very least, find someone, anyone, who you can trust to candidly share what you're going through.
A lawyer can help you to make a plan to actually physically and financially leave this situation.
I agree fully with Curfew's advice about both a therapist and a lawyer. You need to try to get visitation with your daughter every week and not every second week in my opinion. I don't know why so many men get to only see their kids twice a month and those children are raised primarily by only one parent. Your daughter needs you to be strong , and get to a better place for yourself, and to find a partner that loves and appreciates you. There are many people that have mental health issues that are fully supported by their partners. so please have faith that it CAN get better for you. It would be the BEST example for your daughter if you focused on getting out of a bad situation for your mental health, and showed her examples of love and harmony otherwise it's true, her perception of the world will be greatly marred.
Please stop thinking that you are trapped. You're not. You can get out of this and have a happy life. I promise. I've had to remove myself from my first marriage, and although it was challenging. I managed to find a wonderful partner that step parented my son from the age of 11. Your daughter is young. You can do this too. I'm so glad you posted. and hope that having friends here can help. I'm here always if you feel like talking. Sending prayers up for you. Be strong.
I agree seems there is no longer love there.For her to make you feel that way on the regular is just wrong.I have bi polar disorder and it already hurts us to be different and for her to say yal could never have a normal life is a lie you just cant have a normal life with her