i am going to keep this real simple.as long as you make choices based on his drinking or anger... then you are allowing him to control your life and you are helping him stay sick with his alcoholism... short of a treatment center your other option would be AA meetings for him....as for you,i would suggest a support system to help you navagaite through the insanity so you can make choices that reflect your needs....alanon has a great support system for families of alcoholics
Please do not subject yourself to that conduct. Sober or intoxicated it is not ok for ANYONE to treat you that way. If he is in denial that he has an issue at least step away and talk to someone for your self and when he is ready he hopefully will get the help he needs. Is he stressed everyday and thus drinks or are they isolated binges? Does he work and come home stressed every day?
Does he remember any of this? Those are blackout levels for some drinkers. My sisiter was like that when she drank, but never remembered and even denied. Until, the tape recording. This is a dangerous route to take, while my other sister and I were able to pull this off, it has a lot to do with trust,love, and respect on everones part.
Best of Luck,