Cheating in a relationship

[Kanela]

Do you find cheating in a relationship more exciting?

[avisg]

Yeah that my point if you dont want to e with the person ok ...leave them before you start something new .Causes alot less heartache

[cattalina]

I'm sure everyone will hate me for this comment... I don't condone cheating - I think people should learn to communicate and be honest - but it's actually not natural for humans to be monogamous... it's in our DNA, dating back to the stone ages, to "spread the seed" and have multiple relationships with multiple partners. I think it's like a 4 year turnover or something like that (according to science) that is basically programmed into our DNA to find a new partner. Relationships are a lot of work and if you're not willing to put the work into it - just get out, don't cheat.

[kiddthekatt]

  My vote was also no. My husband and I will be married 37 years in Sept. We've stood beside one another through sickness and in health. I love that man as much, no, more! than I did the day I married him. He will always be my true love.

[mami1323]

Cheating to me is the most disgusting thing a person can do.  My fiance cheated on me for 2 years all while I was busy planning our wedding and pregnant with our child and after that home taking care of our child.  It has damaged me more than anything else and has forever left a scar.  I have forgiven him and we have been in counseling for a year but I haven't forgotten anything.  If I allow myself to think about it, I get so angry and bitter.  It is very immature and it is very destructive.  He was selfish and hurtful and realized after he was caught that it wasn't worth losing his family over.  The trust is gone and may never return to that place it once was and it's unfortunate because I would never and could never hurt him the way he's hurt me.  So NO, cheating is not worth it.  Maybe it's exciting but it isn't real and it's cruel to all involved that are innocent in the entire thing.  

[imanaddict]

My ex and I had a dysfunctional relationship where all we did was cheat on each other. I hated myself and him for the 7 years we tortured each other by staying together. He's really the only person I have ever cheated on and all it did was make me feel bad about myself. I always had feelings of guilt and was disgusted by my actions. I never really found it exciting because I didn't like what I was doing. I basically did it because he was doing it to me, which is NOT a good reason. I was young and dumb then. I did learn from it though, so there's something good that came out of it. I just wish I didn't have to learn the hard way. In the end, I found I only cheated myself.

[sway1]

i voted no, but i really don't know. i have put my hubby through alot and he has stood beside me through it all. it boils down to i wouldn't want him to do that to me, so i would not do that to him. we are both allowed to flirt, look and comment. we keep it fun. even a little role playing, plus lots of phone sex as he is gone alot. peace. sway