Aa
it keeps getting worse
hope i have enough time to write this. if you havent been keeping up on my latest problems heres a brief summary:
- idiot husband has been impossible lately again and refusing to give me any $ including for our own children who have recently been sick and had to have medicines, tissues, etc, not to mention food to pack lunch for school with. Its been my punishment for not getting a real job yet. We had agreed that I would stay at home with the kids until they were BOTH in school so that I could be here with them. Im a very hands on Mom and extremely involved with every moment of their lives, and I realize that these years go by FAST with them and I dont want to miss these early years with them before they are off to school and changing so much. You cant get back that "baby time" once its gone and I treasure every moment with them. ANyhwo husband wont work a real job - he works from home when he feels like it as a mechanic and fix it guy. He is very good at it but the problem is he doesnt do it regularly, he gets depression spells and wont work for weeks at a time sometimes, he has a horrible attitude and "hates other people". He even said the other day that I would have to be the one in the family to get a real job - that he is unable to work with other people and coundlt handle it. says he could never work for another boss ever again, he'd get fired for defying him/her. Can you believe that? Does he think he is the only person on this planet who doesnt like to work under someone elses rules? Tuogh crapp buddy, millions of other people work jobs they dont like but they DO IT ANYWWAYS to support their family, their kids! He is unbelievable. Anyhow, Ive been rolling coins all last week just to buy laundry detergent, bare necessity foods, cold medicine and tissues for the kids etc.
we had a bad fight the other night. he wouldnt let me get even 1 sentence out from the start before he interuppted me with a horrible thing. I was starting to say that our youngest son "is my last baby...." and before I could get any further he screamed Oh bullshitt you'll go find some other guy soon and get knocked up with some more kids... and at that, I flew off the handle screaming at him so bad. He is CRAZY. but wait, it gets worse, the next morning after this, he came down in the basement where i was doing laundry...and he says " maybe you were right about one thing, maybe you should wait til ( _____ 3 yr old son's name ) is in school too, because i cant get up that early to take care of his needs and get the other one off to school. SO maybe I'll give you a little money for some groceries. NOW do you knw where i can get some sex around here, lets do it right here , and now.
I thought OMG he is totally off his rocker now. He thinks Im going to have sex with him after all this???? that by him saying that, it smooths evertything back over and all will be fine now?? you gotta be kidding me. Needless to say he did not get his freakin sex and now he is even madder at me about that.
ugh i cant type the rest, i hve to go get in the shower and get ready to get my 5 yr old up and ready for schoool now. will try to finish this later today if i get time. thanks for listening if you made it this far, and pardon all the typos, no time to go back and correct
- idiot husband has been impossible lately again and refusing to give me any $ including for our own children who have recently been sick and had to have medicines, tissues, etc, not to mention food to pack lunch for school with. Its been my punishment for not getting a real job yet. We had agreed that I would stay at home with the kids until they were BOTH in school so that I could be here with them. Im a very hands on Mom and extremely involved with every moment of their lives, and I realize that these years go by FAST with them and I dont want to miss these early years with them before they are off to school and changing so much. You cant get back that "baby time" once its gone and I treasure every moment with them. ANyhwo husband wont work a real job - he works from home when he feels like it as a mechanic and fix it guy. He is very good at it but the problem is he doesnt do it regularly, he gets depression spells and wont work for weeks at a time sometimes, he has a horrible attitude and "hates other people". He even said the other day that I would have to be the one in the family to get a real job - that he is unable to work with other people and coundlt handle it. says he could never work for another boss ever again, he'd get fired for defying him/her. Can you believe that? Does he think he is the only person on this planet who doesnt like to work under someone elses rules? Tuogh crapp buddy, millions of other people work jobs they dont like but they DO IT ANYWWAYS to support their family, their kids! He is unbelievable. Anyhow, Ive been rolling coins all last week just to buy laundry detergent, bare necessity foods, cold medicine and tissues for the kids etc.
we had a bad fight the other night. he wouldnt let me get even 1 sentence out from the start before he interuppted me with a horrible thing. I was starting to say that our youngest son "is my last baby...." and before I could get any further he screamed Oh bullshitt you'll go find some other guy soon and get knocked up with some more kids... and at that, I flew off the handle screaming at him so bad. He is CRAZY. but wait, it gets worse, the next morning after this, he came down in the basement where i was doing laundry...and he says " maybe you were right about one thing, maybe you should wait til ( _____ 3 yr old son's name ) is in school too, because i cant get up that early to take care of his needs and get the other one off to school. SO maybe I'll give you a little money for some groceries. NOW do you knw where i can get some sex around here, lets do it right here , and now.
I thought OMG he is totally off his rocker now. He thinks Im going to have sex with him after all this???? that by him saying that, it smooths evertything back over and all will be fine now?? you gotta be kidding me. Needless to say he did not get his freakin sex and now he is even madder at me about that.
ugh i cant type the rest, i hve to go get in the shower and get ready to get my 5 yr old up and ready for schoool now. will try to finish this later today if i get time. thanks for listening if you made it this far, and pardon all the typos, no time to go back and correct
So sorry to hear about what's going on again......have you figured out that you are ready to leave him yet?
I wish I could offer you some words of advice. What I'd really liek to say is that you should just LEAVE his sorry ***, espcially if you do have a place to stay. One of my best friends just moved in with her sister (who just built a new house and is expecting her first child...) but my best friend has 3 girls, ages 8, 6 and 3 and her 3 yo. was just diagnosed with Autism, but she had to leave her husband....he sounds like he's related to yours.
Seriously, sit down with your family, make a plan and look into getting some help from the government. You and your kids do not deserve to be living in a household like that
(((hugs)))
I wish I could offer you some words of advice. What I'd really liek to say is that you should just LEAVE his sorry ***, espcially if you do have a place to stay. One of my best friends just moved in with her sister (who just built a new house and is expecting her first child...) but my best friend has 3 girls, ages 8, 6 and 3 and her 3 yo. was just diagnosed with Autism, but she had to leave her husband....he sounds like he's related to yours.
Seriously, sit down with your family, make a plan and look into getting some help from the government. You and your kids do not deserve to be living in a household like that
(((hugs)))
Your husband is not doing his job. You are doing yours as a mother though.
Personal question..........do yall rent or own?
Your situation and never gotten better since you've been here. I going to be up to you. You have wonderful family that can help you w/different things.
Ohio...........I'm sorry, but it looks like you're just going to have to go to work. I truly understand wanting to be home w/your son till he starts school.
I was the same way, and did artwork from my home for a long time. Didn't pay much, but took care of not having a day care bill, not having to burn gas to go to work, etc.
Working from home like that can be tough. I still had to care for my daughter while working, so I ended up working long hours and strange hours to get the work done.
Start looking & save up money for deposits and at least a couple of months rent before you do it.
Hey.........do you cook? Hubby's not buying food, so how does he eat? Cook enough for you and the boys period. That's really cruel, but how can a man depend on the wife's mother to feed him?
Personal question..........do yall rent or own?
Your situation and never gotten better since you've been here. I going to be up to you. You have wonderful family that can help you w/different things.
Ohio...........I'm sorry, but it looks like you're just going to have to go to work. I truly understand wanting to be home w/your son till he starts school.
I was the same way, and did artwork from my home for a long time. Didn't pay much, but took care of not having a day care bill, not having to burn gas to go to work, etc.
Working from home like that can be tough. I still had to care for my daughter while working, so I ended up working long hours and strange hours to get the work done.
Start looking & save up money for deposits and at least a couple of months rent before you do it.
Hey.........do you cook? Hubby's not buying food, so how does he eat? Cook enough for you and the boys period. That's really cruel, but how can a man depend on the wife's mother to feed him?
just thought id try and finish/update this post since its been days. I just want to say my family is great. They know everythign that is going on...all of them...my mom, aunt, sister,brother, nephews, inlaws, etc. They are trying to help me so much. My younger nephew brought some clothes and shoes for my boys that are from his older step son that he outgrew, and he also works at a chemical plant. he can get free laundry detergent, bleach, fabric softener etc. He just emailed me this morning he got a bunch for me last night! My brother and his wife filled my car tank with gas and gave me some grocery stuff. My mom made a huge care package with foods and then yesterday handed me an "early birthday" card that had 100 bucks inside to go towards groceries and necessities. I am just blown away. They are trying to figure out how I should go about things next---where to go if I can manage to leave here for good. (I could temporarily stay at any of these relatives houses but it wouldnt work out long term as none of them have much extra room at all) but anyhwo, my family is so wonderful, I dont know how I will ever repay them. They also think my husband is bipolar and are kind of fearful he could become dangerous the way he is.
as for things here directly the last few days, we havent been talking because Im still mad about everything, and he's mad about the no sex thing still. Im also mad because he once again bought stupid toy things on ebay with the money i had in paypal from stuff I had just sold!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
anyhow thats my update. My 5 yr old is sick yet again with a cold. He keeps getting germs at school. he hardly ever was sick his whole life until he started school!! this *****!
as for things here directly the last few days, we havent been talking because Im still mad about everything, and he's mad about the no sex thing still. Im also mad because he once again bought stupid toy things on ebay with the money i had in paypal from stuff I had just sold!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
anyhow thats my update. My 5 yr old is sick yet again with a cold. He keeps getting germs at school. he hardly ever was sick his whole life until he started school!! this *****!
I guess my comment got poofed sorry if I offended anyone I would never mean to do that!! Sorry again. I didn't think it was that bad?????
Some men just don't get it ! Grrrrrrrr They treat you like chit then want to have sex. sorry you don't live closer. I would come over and kick the **** outta him.
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