What three things could you do?

[VicUser]

Name three things that you COULD do for your sweetie that would make him/her look forward to being at home with you?

Here are my first three things. (We both work and kids have graduated)

1) Watch for her to get home and help carry her stuff in, or if she gets home first go to her and give her a hug and a kiss, and get her a glasss of wine while I fix supper.

2) Clear the table after supper and put the clean dishes away and the dirty dishes in the dishwasher.

3) Make sure my socks and underwear make it in the hamper and not on the floor.

[alienshadow]

lets see
be more sensitive (whew we)
give out the free pass for a full body massage
well the last one a surprise wedding for resaying our vows

[katemom]

P.S.- Sometimes it's hard to let go the past indignities we suffered, but moving on feels GREAT!

[katemom]

1) Lighten up and stop taking everything out of context. THIS is my man, not my ex.
2) Not dump all my past **** on him. He's not my ex.
3) Try to get over all the abuse and the pain in the past, and realize I've found a good man to love and trust.

[AlessandrasMom]

I loved your post Jacqui.

VicUser - I just wanted to say thanks for starting this post/discussion.  It has really made me THINK and for once not of myself, but of my husband.  I have to admit I haven't been a very good wife for a WHILE.  Hopefully I can change that.  Not just for the time being, but forever.  I'm ashamed of myself and I'm just thankful that I haven't lost him and it's not too late.  So, Thank you!

[Jacqui805]

Well, I don't know how to put this without it coming off snobby or something, so just know it's not meant in that way.

There really isn't anything else, other than what I normally do that would make my husband happier to see me and spend time with me.  I know this because he misses me when I'm not here, and he always wants me to go with him, no matter where he's going.  It's obvious that I love him, and am in fact still IN love with him.  He knows how much I respect and admire him, and how much he's appreciated because I tell him these things all the time.  I constantly run my hands all over him and press myself up against him, and even smell him because I dig him so much.  I tell him on a daily basis (usually multiple times) how sexy he is, and that everytime I see him or touch him, it makes me want to do things to or with him.  I think all of these things make it a pleasant environment to come home to, and it's easy, because they're all heart-felt.  Also, I tell him how hard it must be to feel the weight of supporting us on his own, and that I appreciate him, and I'm so glad he's home at the end of the day.  I point out his strengths and talents to him often as well.  I do not sweat the small stuff anymore, and in fact, probably don't even see the small stuff anymore.  I just love him and act accordingly.

[VicUser]

My point to this post was not to toot my own horn. I am far from being a good husband and I am the lucky one for having a good woman to love me.

I wanted to stimulate a bit of thought and conversation about what we could do to make our respective sweeties happier. What if we acted in a way that we would want to be treated and look forward to coming home to.

[Avalancheblanche]

The other 2 things will happen spontaneously

[Avalancheblanche]

Fill up the Kiddie pool with Jello........

[Jacqui805]

Thoughts?  Your wife is a lucky woman.

Also, once we understand that men and woman are different creatures, with different ways of communicating, different wants and needs, and remembers to not sweat the small stuff, things are all good.  It's good to remember how you would have reacted to something when you were dating too.

[Chi_Chi_Lover]

Vic,
You are the sweetest man, your wife is lucky...

My husband trys to give me more attention than I want, bless his heart, LOL

[catmagnet]

I no longer have any idea what attention, affection and appreciation even ARE!! =(  =(  =(  =(  =(   =(  =(  =( I think I'm just doomed to sadness, I GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[catmagnet]

You are really hilarious...I think I need to START doing those things!! LOL...I've HAD IT!!! >:(

[VicUser]

WOW, what an interesting set of responses. The reason I brought his topic up was, for many years I expected my wife to be a certain way no matter how I acted. If I did something nice I expected nice things in return. I would be hurt and actually pi$$ed if I tried and didn’t see her trying back, or at least not what I wanted to see. I listened to a couple books last year and came away with a few key points.

1)  Woman have all the power
2)  Men are simple creatures
3)  You need to be sweet, appreciative and give without expecting anything for it. (sort of like when you were dating)

After changing my attitude I have noticed a profound difference in my wife’s. There are days, ok sometimes several, that I get miffed because I feel taken advantage of, especially since I have been making a big effort to do more.  However, she will then do something sweet out of the blue and I once again realize, I was doing things for her for the wrong reasons.

According to the books if you give the proper amount of attention, affection and appreciation, you will have a spouse that wants to come home and spend time with you and will give the same back. After all have you ever tried to be mad at someone that is always nice to you?

Now the book did say if you picked poorly all bets are off.

I do think that many times both men and women use drugs, and alcohol, as a way to escape the pain and hurt feeling that are brought on due to the lack of attention, affection and appreciation that we all deserve.

Thoughts?

[Chi_Chi_Lover]

OMG Nauty!!! Hahaha

Three things that would make him be happy to be home with me...Huuummmm.

As long as I'm happy I don't really care, LOL

1. have TV on ESPN turn as loud as will go
2. cook a meal, I never cook EVER
3. Be naked, I don't do that either. Hahaha

[Jacqui805]

1.  Cook him filet mignon dinner with a fantabulous dessert.
2.  Clean up the house.
3.  T'would be rude to list the third...um....sorry.

[10356]

1 organize his garage
2 organize his wood shed
3 organize his tin shed
Not an easy chore by any standard
But how I love my Man

[NautyOne]

OMg !!!!   Lmao.......:_))))))

Nauty.

[newgirl2708]

1) Buying new cabinet skins for hole punched in $25.00

2) Buying new end table lamp thrown across livingroom $80.00

3) Knowing she's fixing things now and I have a wide open Visa.....Priceless

[NautyOne]

Ok, so I know this is getting old but:

1  B  attery
2  O  perated
3  B  oyfriend

I guess I just can't get BOB out of my brain or my night table..........:-)))

[toxictome]

magi...LOL

Well...lets' see......since my sweetie lives out of state...
1. visit
2. visit him
3. visit him tonight!!!  :D

LOL

[bobby139]

lets see 3 things huh...

1) have a keg of beer for him
2)have 2 kegs of beer
3) buy him the beer factory

flmagi> you are to funny girl LMAO

[allaboutmary]

My new motto (since my divorce)  Ask not what I can do for you.....but what can you do for me !    I did everything for my husband and that got old. So I divorced him, but now I'm dating him,  and he treats me like a queen.  I fear that marriage license would screw it up again.

[flmagi]

What was the question?  
Oh yeah, 3 things I could do to make my sweetie look forward to being at home with me.
1. Not file for divorce
2. not tell him what a stupid a$$ hole he is,and stop bothering me.
3. Stop telling him to get out, when he comes thru the door.
I'm really a pleasant person.   HA

[NautyOne]

wow !   that B-day gift must have done wonders.  Who needs BOB when you have Victor Romantic-o.........lol.  So three thing, huh?

1.  hmmm

2.  uh, hmmmm

3.  uh, well, hmmmmm