Hey bama as ya know I'm new here I love this site and the freindships I've made ur right in so many ways with what ya said above I know I still want n need this forum I think that some people when they've posted on here n gone thru the ct affects some might relapse and feel embrassed it post n those who still clean they prob thinl the battle is over and they don't need the forun cos in there minds the fight is ova I know personally I'm battleing everyday can't wait for 90 days congrats on ur cleantime huni love ur mate from downunder amanda xoxoxox (fpv)
What a great topic! I remember lurking on this site for a year or so before I joined, after finally getting up the nerve to post. At that time thinking back I really wanted a magic potion to get me clean or better yet for someone else to do it for me (lol), I got a few tips,encouragement, and some strength then I was alone again to deal with the monkey on my back (grrrrrr). Fortunatly, I reached out to another member on this site that literally took me under his wing and did the tough love mixed with genuine care and walked me thru this whole process. My whole point is, even if it seems like people disappear on the forum, there is much at work behind the scenes with private messaging. I was too ashamed, shy, nervous to put myself out there on the day to day, but I made a few solid friendships that literally saved my life. I know I am rambling, but this has given me the opportunity to comment on the importance of connecting one to one when and if the time is there. I can't even express my appreciation for the medhelp friend that never gave up on me even tho he had a busy home life, work, and working on his own recovery. (thanks Phil). Now that I have some clean time behind me, it makes me want to give back and stay tuned.....thanks for bring this subject up, interested to hear others thoughts....
Hey Bama,,,For me I am still here,,,just kinda lurking. I havent really had to much to say lately and feel that my advice maybe isnt good enough-for some people. I always check in its my morning ritual and afternoon ritual. I know of some members that got cleaned and left,,I can onlyhope that they are living a sober life and may have found some other form of support. I kinda drifted away when I got back to work,,but there are peeps here that I genuinely care about and think about (like you). Im still here,,not as much as going back to work occupies my time more and being on call. Im also addicted to Bubble witch saga game on facebook. LOL! (((hugs)))~Bkitty
Personally, every time I come to this site, I am reminded of the days in hell. I am at once uncomfortable and glad to be back. I think that some people who get clean feel that they can move on, and don't realize that continuing support is an important element in preventing a relapse. This is one of the best places for that support. Plus, I do feel an obligation of sorts to help others however I can.
Hi,I'm kinda like kitty,not posting so much as I used to and felling like I don't have a great deal to say to alot of people.I know that like me,alot of us get pretty busy working slash repairing our damaged lives after we get a few months in.Also as said above,I talk to a couple of people with like problems who have contacted me through pm.I always answer my pm's(no vicki not pms if you read this).
Also like some or most of us who start out as "lurkers"(such a heinous sounding word),I am still lurking on here and I am watching you bama so don't mess up! lol
Well we need to discuss aftercare more. Whats helping us stay strong. Show the people who are starting. We need to show and express what were doing now. Gives even more hope for the beginners as well as old members. Change topics is good sometimes. Eapecially related to staying clean. We all like to post crisises and clean time. But we need more than r
That. When I got clean it was like what know?
It will give more to everyone is we share new learnimg technics
The first 3 weeks I was literally baby stepping. During those weeks I was so focused on how crappy I felt I didnt realize I was taking huge steps towards recovery. The first 3 weeks again were more focused on physical symptoms. I set small goals the first 3 weeks for each day,,sometimes it was a simple as brushing my teeth and getting outta bed to go to aftercare. i also focused on getting on a schedule and was viligant of the times of the day that is was time for a pill,,during those times I distracted myself whether i came here and posted or went to NA.
im 73 days now,,Im back to work,,i focus on keeping a schedule and completing my work. Aftercare is over,,but I make sure I take my medications as prescribed and attend NA. Sometimes I dont say anything at NA and sometimes I cant shut up.
It was hard to break the pill habits,,but Im learning to replace them with healthy habits,,I no longer wake up wishing I had a pill to get going,,I simply get going and get in the shower and start my day. I still take it one day at a time. Taking care of myself is so hard for me to do and hard to learn to do as its uncomfortable. Uncomfortable is good. I need to get used to doing me. Thats some of my advice,,hopefully someone will find it useful. I obviously cant shut up tonight! LOLOL (((hugs bama))) How is bamaman?
you know, there were SO many awesome members that i used to follow on here when i went through my detoxing period over a year ago, and never see them on here anymore. these were members that were just awesome. they were on everyday - or at least once a day. always had something nice to say or input to give. they knew what they were doing, in other words.
it really makes you think of what has happened to them. not in a bad way, but just praying that all is okay with them.
Hi Bama! I'm still here. I check in and read posts when I get up and before I go to bed, I'm like some of the others. Sometimes I don't have a lot to say, or I'm too tired to type, lol. I guess i'm a "lurker" too. I love this site, it is a part of my after care. Reading a lot of these posts, especially if I had a bad day and my coping skills are down, keeps me honest with myself and gives me reassurance. On day 28!
I've been a member for a long time and pretty much lurk. You, gnarly, Sara, viki, and many more are great about giving advice. It's just hard to find the time with life continuing after the physical wds. However I am inspired to give back more.
I agree a lot of names I used to see when I first joined I don't see anymore....hopefull they as well are lurking about lol....
hello to all of you that are lurking about...new and old hope to see you comment soon
I DID read this and saw your PMS comment. Are you feeling better? lol
People tend to come and go and it is interesting to watch the trends...
There are more folks who are here and NOT posting than you would imagine! People tend to drift once the major crisis is over and many find the forum depressing once they are in recovery. It's very individual.
When we do "roll call" you'll see a lot of friends check in...
I have seen a bazillion people come thru here and go. There are not that many who are left that came here when i did. Most move on with their lives, some of them dont. All we can do is cheer for the ones who are continuing on in their recovery and pray for the ones who are still out there.
I think you brought up an excellent point (as usual) I, too think it's important that we post more about how we are living our clean lives as information for new members...New hope. I try to check in twice a day and post when I can for those that are in need. I don't read or 'lurk' much anymore because I'm so busy with work and life and putting myself back together....I especially try to be around on the weekend as it's the quietest time. This forum has been a godsend and an education for me. It's a great tool for recovery and also to reach out to those that need hope and support the most....
i've also noticed that a lot of people will google "at home detox from opiates" or other search phrases and come here, sign up to post a question and then we never hear back from them - regardless of how many responses their post receives. as much as i realize it's an individual thing, my heart breaks not knowing if they are okay now or what...
I too have become more of a lurker than a poster in the last 4 or 5 days.
Why? I needed all of you so badly when I was detoxing bcuz I felt alone. I only have 10 days clean under my belt, so yes, I probably do need to continue posting as part of my aftercare but I've come to a point especially in the last few days that I would like to share so that some of you may be able to help w/ the way I'm feeling...
I was all about going to NA the first week of my recovery and felt so good after coming home. I also was on this site pretty much 24/7. However, I've come to the point where I just can't get myself to go to another meeting or spend much time on this site anymore bcuz it is so depressing and alot of the ppl I see at meetings have been in a far worse place than me with IV drug use, selling thereselves to get them and having been in and out of jails and prisons bcuz of it and it just makes me feel like "yuck" when I get home. So, why???
Thanks for all the comments. It scares me when I see someone new ask questions than leaves. Also I think we need more post/topics about where you are in recovery. What were learning. Ask and start those types of threads.
When I first joined I was in crisis mode. And everyone reached out to me. Thank you. And when your starting you don't know what to expect. We've got to talk more and open up more about progress..relapses..the whole nine yards. There is a lot of people that can't or don't have the time or resources to go to meetings. So we need to talk about aftercare.
It also will give us that are clean help. And show the newbies how important that is. Also it will give hope to those that are hopeless.
Whether your tapering....post thoughts on that. Share your recovery...
I'm glad people still lurk around. But starting posts and threads that help us deal with aftercare will touch so many people. All of us need constant encouragement or support.
Thanks for all the replies...anyone care to step up and start a new thread. LOL??
Bama, you are so right lol I don't know where or who I'd be without this forum and the ppl here... I believe, when u leave this forum, and this support system, you ultimately open yourself up to temptation. You are right, it does help to, try to help some one like you... I've lost track of my days but I think because it's not important how long I'm clean, I think its how long I stay clean. Thank you for posting lol it made me chuckle a little. And yes I'm doing wonderfully in my recovery! I feel amazing and I think that just about everyone has notice the change for the better in me. Thanks again Bama
I guess I'm a newbie, at recovery that is!! I stumbled on this on day 9 off percs and would have lost without u guys! I had no idea how many "me's" were out there! I'm on here every day but feel like I don't have the wisdom to support people the way you do! Keep up the good work Bama!
Hi, I started my journey into clean and being free March 17th 2010 and
I was on this site almost around the clock for the first 3 weeks. Then I would comment to the people I new that gave good advice to me, and felt comfortable with like gnarly, Sara, viki and others. But 6 months later when I started using again I would tell that I was off the wagon ( vicoden) and would be encouraged but I was also and still am embarased. I am on here at least 4 times a week and read and read post. I am not a good speller and I feel like I can't give advice to anyone I am still using 1 vicoden a day. So I am sure that there are people like myself who watch and care but just do not speak up anymore. I swear the day I get off and stay off I will be shouting it from the roof tops and also on here. I wish I was like the above people that are great with words but my prayer to all that is on here is peace with themselves and to be clean. Thanks for letting me talk you know I forgot how good it feels, good luck and prayer to you, Bethany
0421 that's my birthday, April 21, lol just thot that was ironic sorry..
Just want to tell you not to EVER give up. We have all been in your shoes, you'll get there. xx
You have raised a good point and here is my honest answer:
I have only posted a few times over the past 4 months as I mainly read other peoples posts.
I'm not sure if I will still be using this site in 6 months time - this is mainly due to me slowly getting my life back in order and I am taking up new activities such as job, gym, cycling etc. Hopefully I will still log in every now and then to see what has been posted.
The support on here has been AMAZING and it just shows that there are some fantastic people on this planet who are willing to offer advice to total strangers - this will always be thankful for :)
I feel that this board is a great place to come if I ever need some help or have any questions.
Thanks I need to hear that, I am glad bettermomma that something good happen on that day, I will remember to say happy birthday to you as it is a sad day for me.Sooooooooo It is good to hear someone was born that day and I hope you succed in your journey of getting off your demon pills. For me it seems like there is a demon person after me, I get clean I fall of a chair and break me tail bone back on vicoden. Then get almost off and have to have 3 theeth pulled back on vicoden. Now I am going to have implants to replace the theeth so here we go again more vicoden. I am old but geeezzz I should not be falling apart this bad!!! Someday ya someday I will do it. prayers to you, Bethany