Hi and we can all change.. the issue is are there triggers back in ct that will possibly make him fall off track? what was he struggling with ? and some times separation is the strongest bond but it really takes guts to pull it off and when kids are involved its even harder.
Did you ever go to any Alanon meetings? When did your "temporary" relationship end? Have you thought about going to Florida?
My first marriage was solely based on using from the first day we were married until the end. We enabled each other, we were together ten years and only married 2 years. I am now with a completely clean, never used, husband and he has been the biggest help for me. It ha been three years since my divorce, and I can just now look back and see the problems the drugs created. While 16 months is an awesome amount of time for him, I'd suggest giving your time apart at least 2 years. You can be friends and talk, but I would give your self both plenty of time to heal. Best of Luck.
You have a 50/50 chance.... If he is ready and really wants it then your chances are greater. Just know and understand that this is illness he will be fighting the rest of his life. Chances of a relapse at some point are very high. But there is hope!! There are people who have been sober for 20+ years
I feel, where there's love, there's hope. My partner was a gambler, he quit, and we're back together. We have a young baby, and he also has a teenage daughter...but he keeps smoking, stopping, and starting. I'd like to think he can clean himself up, I hope he does, but I have to give him to space to do so. It's very hard. I don't really sleep, which is why I am responding here, but I do think acceptance is the key. How to do that, I don't know. Which is more painful - to watch someone you love suffer, or not be with them at all? Sometimes it's a matter of self-preservation too.....