Brother in Trouble

[sisterbear]

Hi Everyone,
I would like some advice as to how to help my brother who is abusing oxi and percocets. My problem is that despite the massive evidence against him he will NOT admit that he has a problem. His EX-Girlfriend says that he would have trouble sleeping at night and would itch alot. He had a car accident 10+ years ago, but I am not sure how long he has had the problem. He is always saying he is in pain and has a big stash of nasal spray, stool softners, cough syrup, and anti ulcer meds by him at all times. I am told by people that he is looking for oxi and perc on the street. I have a million pounds of evidance yet he refuses to admit that he has a problem. His health, business and personal relationships are suffering and I am scared to death.
I do not want to bury my 29 year old brother. How do I help him to admit that he needs to get help??? He knows he has a problem he is just to scared to say it. Any other signs I can look for?
Thanks

[tsands]

My son who is in rehab had the pinpoint pupils also. His doc was heroin and hydrocodone. (and whatever else he could shoot or ingest) These people are right, there's very little you can do for him until he wants it or gives in. My son gave in. He is a minor (was until yesterday) and even though he was a minor, no facility would take him because he didn't want the help! Talk about feeling powerless! Just keep as calm as you can and I just kept the evidence I had and would convieniently bring it up when he was calm as well. It took forever, but now he's in a place where people can help him as to where we couldn't. This forum has made a big difference in my life and these people on here will help you with ANYTHING! Keep letting him know that you know whats going on and that you love him. As I have discovered, all the love in the world isn't enough! It has to be them. Sad, but oh so true. Hang in there and we all will survive....

[landbray]

Hi,
Short of doing an "intervention" with him,
there isn't much you can do but be there for him
when he crashes.( Hopefully you won't be
burying him) ,
Only he , himself can keep him from an
early grave. You will drive yourself crazy trying to prevent that especially
when he continues to use.
Have you tried an Alanon meeting for yourself?. Allot of people attend these days
that don't always have an alcoholic in their life. but an addict.
Or just some private counselor for you to talk with.
You could maybe see if your brother would go with you.
It ***** being on your end and I am so sorry that you have to go through this. No one should have to.
Best of luck to you
paaddict

[sisterbear]

He is perscribed perc's and admits to using them for his back. The thing is that he hanging out with people that he never would of in the past. He is sick alot of the time and his finances are suffering.  He hides it well, but when the pinpoint pupils look you in the eye and a person is losing motivation and  losing weight it's scary. If I do not stick my heart in the situation he very well could join the millions of people sent to and eary grave by addiction.
I say I fight!!

[liscamdave]

Im sorry your family is going through this, but the sad part is that he can't and will not get the help he needs unless he truly wants it for himself. If he is not admitting he has a problem, then there is not much anyone can do. Is he prescribed his meds??? How you do know what he takes??