Drug tests

[Utility]

Some of you may already know my story but I had a girlfriend that was a 3-month heroin addict. She admitted herself to rehab for 3 days of detox and was prescribed suboxone, which allegedly helped her quit. However, a couple of weeks later, she started acting strange asking for money, taking extended bathroom breaks, remaining awake all nights and smoking endlessly. She promised to never return to the city where she was getting her drugs as she has no business there and lives 2 hours away. However, I know for a fact she went there twice and the second time, I caught her red handed  as she went there about 2 hours after she was very upset with me for not giving her money.A week before I caught her in the city, I had asked her to dissolve suboxone in front of me for 2 days and she did so I am partly confident that she isn't doing heroin. However, based on her behaviors and frequent money requests, I am positive she is using something, I just don't know what. Anyways, i cut off all communication with her because of her alleged lies and broke up the relationship. She has been texting me daily urging me to reconsider as she is 100% clean (which I don't believe whatsoever) and she left me a message saying that she would administer a home drug test in front of me. I am considering doing it but I have a few questions. Does a 6 panel CVS test pretty effective and accurate? How is it administered? How can I ensure she isn't cheating when taking it? How fast can I get the results? How are results read? Thanks in advance for all your inputs.

[Utility]

The issue that I always had wasn't necessarily using (although it is repulsing) but it's her lack of admission. Her constant and alleged lies is what bothered me the most. If she came up to me and said, I need help and am WILLING to get sober like she did last month, there is no doubt I would be there for her. But although she denies it, not only do I believe she uses but I also believe she isn't ready to quit.

[Gettingcleanagain1221]

I disagree here that you should give up man. She has a disease and I believe that love is love. I am personally am an addict but my wife had emotional and psychological problems well before I became addicted to opiates. Would you turn your back on someone you love if they had cancer or were a diabetic?  It is important that addicts get professional help because addiction is a disease as much as dealing with someone who battles depression. You do need to keep her honest though. She must be trying to get better if she values your relationship. However bare in mind that her brain is hijacked and isn't thinking how she normally would think. Good luck and keep us posted buddy.

[worried878]

the :"or" may be the best route
u will know if someone has stopped using by merely being around them for a bit...all these chanegs  do not seem necessary in a relationship....when...we meet the right one  It is not sposed to be so gosh dern difficult
Use ur bones...the feelings u get down past the heart/////often we can not trust our hearts...but we can trust our bones

[bmdad]

Being as addicts are the some of the best liars I wouldn't be surprised if she already has a stash of urine and changing it out daily. I'm sure she has already considered that you may just be dropping by without notice. I would make sure you are in the bathroom with her. Don't let her claim stage fright. I also wouldn't just do one test. Like avisg said, she may have taken something to clear her system although I don't know how reliable those products are. So I would give her one every other day or every third day for a week or two.
But like mentioned above, if you go for a blood or hair test, the results can not be tampered with. One blood test would be all that you need and it would probably be cheaper than to give her an at home test every third day for a week.
You have been bending over backwards for her. You have a great heart. I hope everything works out for you and for her.

Brian

[Utility]

Hi Kim,
First, congrats on your recovery as it is a wonderful accomplishment. She is back at her parents' but I have no idea how they are treating her. I have very strong feelings for the girl and have been miserable through this but I am adamant that no matter what, I will not be with her if she uses drugs and she knows that. As for the test, I could buy it and go to her house and make sure she does it in front of me anytime I want. She offered to do it but I haven't replied to her texts and she would have no idea that I am planning on doing it.

[kimbraveheart]

Hi, I have been following your story. My husband and myself were heroin addicts for 13yrs. I am over 300 days clean. My husband had over 200 days clean behind him and relapsed but he is back on the straight and narrow.Heroin is an extremely hard drug to get off and stay off.Id go as far as saying its one of the hardest drugs to come off. Before we came on this site, we had stopped and relapsed countless times. You seem to have put a lot of work and money into this relationship. If she is willing to do a drug test and she doesnt know when you are going to turn up with it then you could try that, but i agree with the above maybe a blood or hair one would be better. The pharmacist will explain all this to you. I dont know how strong your feelings for her are, but to  put up with it all, you must have very strong feelings for her. It is up to you my friend but as i say this addiction could go off and on for years, although one thing in her favour is that she wasnt on it for a long time so maybe she is telling the truth. She cant be taking any kind of opiate as she would have went into instant w/d when she dissolved the sub under her tongue. So she isnt addicted to any kind of opiate or she wouldnt be able to go without them for that long Its basically down to you now. Everything could be fine or you could end up with years of coping with her addiction. She maybe has stopped but just doing other strange things you dont know about. I would tell her i wasnt going to make her do a drug test so she doesnt think your going to do it and then she maybe will take whatever she maybe taking without worrying about the test. But you have to remember you have to look after yourself too and think about the life ahead of you. As i said before 3 months is not a long time to be taking heroin so she maybe has been able to stop it and stay off it. Does she go to any kind of aftercare. I do realise she lives quite far away from everywere so that would be quite hard. Were is she staying now. Has her mum and dad let her back in ? I wish you the very best of luck and if you have any questions do not hesitate to ask. ..Kim